Mickey Roothman - Transformational Breakthrough Coach & Speaker

*** SELF-AWARENESS ***

When events happen in our lives that don't feel so good, we're taught from a young age to find the problem outside of ourselves to feel better.

If you came home crying to your mom that some girls at school were mean to you, your mom usually made you feel better by telling you something along the lines of "they're just mean or jealous of you".

We're not taught to look within ourselves but rather externally for the cause of difficulty or pain.

Our mothers never said anything like: "Why does it bother you so much when someone is mean to you?" or "How does that make you feel and why?".

This is why so many of us as adults struggle with self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

We sooth ourselves by focusing on or blaming something on the outside of us, when really these kinds of experiences are opportunities for us to learn, grow, heal and evolve.

People and things trigger us daily, but would you rather keep getting triggered?

Or would you rather next time something similar happens not be effected by it at all because you healed within you the thing that got triggered in the first place?

Healing and growth never comes from excusing and absolving ourselves from taking ownership of our own "stuff".

And we all have stuff!

As a Life Coach who has worked with people from ALL walks of life I can assure you that all humans have "stuff". And we all have pretty much the same "issues" too, myself included.

But very few are brave enough to turn inward when the not so good experiences come, to find what needs to heal inside of us to get the healing, evolution and growth we're meant to from these experiences.

Its easier to tell ourselves its because of the other person, something they did, some external factor or circumstance than it is to take responsibility for what happens in our lives ourselves.

Self awareness isn't about bashing yourself.
It isn't about feeling bad about yourself.
It isn't about criticizing yourself.
It isn't about being disappointed in yourself or regretting anything.
It isn't about justifying our own actions, reactions or feelings.
It isn't about absolving others or ourselves of any responsibility.
It isn't about finding excuses for who we are or what we do.

Self awareness is one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves and everyone in our lives at present and in our future.

It allows us to question why we do the things we do, why we act and react the way we do, so that we can heal the things within ourselves that aren't broken but wounded.

Self awareness helps us to unbecome who we became because of past experiences from our childhood that made us adapt and change in the first place.

Working on yourself, looking inward and becoming self aware is scary. It can be painful at times. But I promise you it is SO worth it!

Its only by turning inward to question yourself and your own actions, perceptions and feelings instead of focusing outward and blaming or projecting them onto someone or something else, that we heal, grow, learn and evolve.

Our past wounds are like a thorn in our flesh.
Each time someone bumps into it, it hurts.
But its not about the person that bumped us.
Its about the thorn in our flesh.
You can either choose to pull it out and you'll never face that thorn or pain of it being bumped again.
Or, you'll always blame others for your pain when they bump into that thorn that's sticking out and in the way, and expect others to be careful of bumping or touching your thorn.

This is why I became a life coach.
I was tired of my own thorns hurting me and others.
I was tired of other people's thorns hurting me and themselves.
I was tired of witnessing humanity bleed their own wounds onto each other, destroying each other instead of healing our own wounds.

Through my own journey I finally realized that looking inward and becoming self-aware is the only way to stop hurting ourselves and each other with the thorns we have in our flesh, the ones that we mostly don't even know that we have at a subconscious level. Until we become self-aware.

Blaming the person or thing that bumped your thorn doesn't get rid of it.

And unfortunately neither does saying things like: "God closed this door because He has something better for me." Although this is a very well meant thing to say to make someone or even ourselves feel better about what's happened, it doesn't help us to take ownership of our own thorns. It doesn't help us to get rid of them. The next person or thing will just bump it again until we are willing to investigate, acknowledge and pull out our own thorns.

Nothing is ever about the other person or the event.
Its always just your soul's way of mirroring to you what your own thorns are.

But., we can only pull them out if we turn inward towards ourselves, to discover, acknowledge, face and take ownership and ultimately victory over them.

May your week ahead be filled with blessings and breakthroughs beyond what you can imagine! 💛

Happy Friday everyone! 💛💛💛
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LET IT GO! 💛
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When we focus on what’s out of our control we experience
👉🏻 Stress
👉🏻 Anxiety
👉🏻 Fear
👉🏻 Overwhelm
👉🏻 Resentment
👉🏻 Burnout
👉🏻 Feeling stuck
👉🏻 And so much more that weighs us down:

The 🔑 is to turn inward and remember what you do have control over.

✨ This will not only subside all of those chaotic thoughts and emotions, but also get you into a better space to see solutions or to surrender and let it go.

✨ When we focus outward at the things we cannot control, it leaves us feeling hopeless and helpless. We suffer.

✨ When we focus inward at what we can control, we feel empowered and can receive the guidance, support and everything else we need to move forward and beyond.

💛💛💛💛💛

𝙒𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙛𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙗𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙣𝙤 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩!

You might 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠 you “know” a lot about a person, but fact is we all know very little.

Just have 𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙚. Whether with the waiter getting your order wrong, the delivery man being late, the shop assistant ‘ignoring’ you, the friend who is not texting you back, the business owner seemingly not delivering as promised, the employee not performing, the boss pushing for a few last sales.

𝙒𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙛𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙗𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙣𝙤 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩!

Just be kind - It costs nothing!
You never know what your lack of kindness and grace could end up costing that person. You never know how valuable your kindness and grace towards them may be to them either. 💛