Not Alone

Self-care tip number 1. Saying “no”. Easy enough to say right?

WRONG!

I’m terrible at this. I feel so much guilt & anxiety when I have to tell people no whenever I don’t have a “good enough reason” (because you know just not wanting to isn’t good enough) I can feel my face heat up & I know the person can see it all in my face because well I’m the type of person who can’t find their expressions.

I always hear people say “it’s okay to say no” but sometimes our minds don’t tell us that. Our mind tells us that if we say no, that person will hate us. They will never ask us to anything or to go anywhere every again. But we need to reteach ourselves that it’s okay to say no & on the flip side we need to accept that people will give us no answers.

It’s okay to be slightly disappointed when you get these answers but reach out to the person afterwards so they know it’s okay, that you still want them in your life. It will make them 100% feel better.

Remember to show & tell people how much they mean to you.
-Paige 🖤

So here’s the thing. Sometimes we feel alone. Very alone. We look around & we kind of feel like we are drowning but to ask for help or reach out for help feels like you’re burdening those around you with your issues when you know they have their own.
But guess what?

IT’S OKAY!

It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to take time for yourself. It’s okay to put yourself first. It’s 100% okay.
It’s also okay to reach out to the person you haven’t heard from in awhile. It’s okay to reach out the person who keeps posting concerning things, even if you haven’t talked in years or ever. It’s okay to show people that even though you’re only one person that one person on this planet cares.
Be that person. Be the person you want people to be for you. Be the real friend. Even if you think you have failed before try again. Always better yourself. Always improve. Be the good & change you want to see in the world. -Paige

P.S. if anyone ever wants a coffee date I’m down.

Some Wednesday motivation for yinz.