THRIVE IMPACT

Triggered? Good. That’s Your Cue to Do the Inner Work

Becoming a more integrated leader isn’t something that happens to you simply by learning the concepts. It takes practice.

We often share this in our workshops — you won’t become a conscious leader without practice. Just like you won’t see muscle definition without hitting the gym. It only counts if you put in the reps.

I have been applying this into my life lately in more concrete ways. Confronting my insecurities head-on by putting in the reps to counteract my fears.

Recently, I had some challenging conversations around Roles, and a lot of the challenge for me personally in those conversations was my own insecurities being triggered.

I could have chosen to only focus on how someone “could have said XYZ differently, and it wouldn’t have been so challenging for me” — and while there is truth to that — I would be missing the bigger, and more important, point.

The primary focus should *not* be on what someone said or did… being aware of my own triggers is the key to unlocking my growth and potential.

I needed to take time to ask myself what I was feeling underneath my triggers. What was my internal narrative saying? Not the external narrative that I can easily point toward another with “should haves” or “could haves.”

After taking some time to be honest with myself, I noticed that I was subconsciously in agreement with what I assumed the other person was implying about me in those challenging Role conversations.

And I needed to dig into why… and what is true…

I needed to argue with *myself* more than anyone else.

I needed to own that I didn’t think I had what it took to do the job. To call out that I felt unsure if the way that I am naturally inclined or wired was going to set me up to fail. And I had to admit that I felt shaky under the pressure, fearful that if I did fail, I might not find my footing again.

I allowed myself to believe that my ability to succeed was set — predetermined — unmovable — defined by a societal narrative of what is.

So, I turned to an unusual source for support and clarity...

[Keep Reading: https://thriveimpact.org/put-in-the-reps-becoming-the-leader-youre-meant-to-be/]

How might embracing our full selves in professional settings transform our approach to leadership and the impact we can achieve in our communities?