Loving Partnership

The Things We Do Instead of Having the Actual Conversation

Controversial opinion: most relationship problems are not communication problems. 😅

They are avoidance of communication problems.

Some things we do instead of having the actual conversation:

🙃 Passive aggressively rearrange the dishwasher
🙃 Say “I’m fine” in a tone that clearly means the opposite of fine
🙃 Post a mildly pointed Instagram story and hope they see it
🙃 Bring up the thing from three years ago that is definitely not what this is actually about
🙃 Go very, very quiet in a way that speaks volumes
🙃 Ask “are you okay?” eleven times instead of saying “I’m not okay”

Sound familiar? It’s okay. We’ve all been there. I’ve been there (Ken, not so much ~ he’s the communication king in our relationship most of the time, but that’s a post in itself 🫅🏻)

The truth is — most of us were simply never taught how to have these conversations. How to say what we actually mean without it turning into something bigger than it needed to be. How to express what we really feel or need without resorting to resentment, anger, blame…

That is exactly what couples retreats and relationship coaching are for.

Not to make you talk more (although, if that’s needed, you’ll get those tools, too).
To help you mean more. 💜

DM us if this hits a little too close to home. 😉
From our hearts to yours ~ in Loving Partnership,
Lidija & Ken
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