Tracy Durkin, LCSW

In 2023, the volume and velocity of information swirling around us can be intense. In order to process it all, our psyches can get into a state where everything seems urgent. We may feel a little bit behind, trying to catch up, most of the time; time to think may feel like an impossible luxury.

Most times, though, that thing you need to consider or to decide on could use a little time and probably shouldn’t be rushed. You will feel clearer and calmer once you think about it, talk it over with someone you trust, and sleep on it. Peace.

“Essence” is defined as “the most significant quality, element or aspect of a thing or person.” It’s your you-ness, your core self, unchanged by time or circumstance - the part that feels exactly the same since you can remember. In your essence, you are complete. Peace.

Negative or uncomfortable emotions are not bad; they are just indicators, like the oil light in your car, or a frozen screen on your computer. They are your body’s way of telling you something needs attention.

Most of us get triggered in very specific, patterned ways. The same sort of event or interaction that might insult, hurt, or frighten you may have no emotional impact on me whatsoever, and vice versa. We have unique stories and unique places of sensitivity and reactivity.

Look for patterns in what emotionally activates you. What situations or interactions evoke immediate, strong emotions, to an almost predictable degree? You will likely find themes related to your deepest needs for safety, security and survival. You may need to look closely- but the patterns are there! Learn from triggers. Peace