Raise Behavioral Health

Raising the standard of psychiatric care in 2025 with Jason Hardman PMHNP
-Seeing ages 5 and up
-Accpting most major insurances
-Free 15 minute intial consults calls
-90 minute evaluations in person or telehealth.
-Specialized ADHD testing and treatment supported by QB Check. An FDA approved computerized test to help support and validate an ADHD assessment.
- Genesight testing: testing to determine how a patient's genes may affect the way certain drugs will work for them.
- Happy to help support clients dealing with a variety of mental disorders like anxiety, depression, insomnia, ADHD, mood disorders, trauma and much more!

There is so much more to behaviour than most people think. Children don’t try to upset us, there is usually something behind it. They are communicating their need through behaviour. If we look behind the behaviour we can see a child who is doing the best they can

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Even the most well-intentioned, kindhearted person messes up. We've all said something wrong, reacted poorly in the moment, or hurt someone's feelings. Here are some strategies you can use when that happens.
 
How can I tell I messed up or reacted poorly? Look out for these signs:
• The person tells you that you've hurt them and you're able to understand that hurt.
• You raised your voice, screamed, or yelled.
• The other person has shut down emotionally.
• You called them names or used insults.
• Your actions were disruptive or harmful (loud, breaking things, etc.)
• You belittled their feelings (calling them sensitive, dramatic, etc.)
Reasons why people react poorly (even when they don't want to):
• They are emotionally dysregulated.
• Repeating old patterns they witnessed or learned throughout life.
• Lack the skills to manage their emotions or communicate effectively. 
• Trauma history that causes them to become extremely emotionally flooded.
No matter what the reason is, we have to be accountable for our actions and take responsibility when we react in a way that is harmful or not in line with our values.

A disclaimer: This type of repair will likely not work in abusive relationships and you should not feel pressured to engage in this type of repair in an abusive relationship. As always, if you are being physically or emotionally abused, safety is always the top priority. Please work one on one with a therapist who is familiar with your situation and can help guide you.

"What do I DO during a tantrum? Do I send them to a timeout? Do I ignore them? Do I give them what they want to stop the screaming?"

Here's the key: The feeling is ok. The behavior is not.
"It's ok to feel mad. It's not ok to hit.”

The feeling is OK! And? We are holding that boundary firmly. "You're feeling sad that iPad is all done, we'll have more iPad tomorrow."

Toddler brains are SUPER under construction🧠🚧, that's why we see them scream, yell, flail on the ground over every tiny thing. Coping skills, like the ability to self regulate or calm down, don't come naturally to a toddler. They are something WE as parents need to actively teach.

That's why we're not big fans of timeouts. Rather than teaching healthy coping skills, timeouts are teaching toddlers, "when I have big feelings, when I feel sad or mad, I am punished, and should be alone. I should push feelings deep down, then I won't be punished."🤯

Instead of timeout, give your toddler an effective coping skill, a TIME IN:

✨The Cozy Corner✨

A "Cozy Corner" is a comfy place for your toddler to self-soothe + let big feelings out safely and constructively.

Short-term: Helps your toddler soothe + settle big feelings in the heat of the moment while building resilience.

Long-term: You welcoming their big feelings builds trust in your relationship, helps them name their upset feelings + practice healthy ways to cope.

HOW TO MAKE A COZY CORNER:
✨Center it around a soft, cozy chair or a snuggly blankie - this will help their body feel calmer✨

✨Drawing materials - so they can let big feelings out without relying on words✨

✨A book about feelings, we love The Color Monster by Anna Llenas✨

Don't EXPECT your toddler to be able to use their cozy corner for every tantrum. You're planting coping skill seeds here - it will take time to see them use their cozy corner on their own.

And remember to STAY WITH THEM. You’re never “sending them” to their cozy corner - you’re regulating with them and staying present through their big feelings.

✨Struggling with tantrums, power struggles and disciplining in a way that works? Our course is here to help! For parents with kids aged 1-6. Link in bio✨

Parenting doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game where either the parent wins or the child wins, where it’s either all good or all bad. Peaceful parenting invites us to embrace all of our child AND ourselves in ways that value respect AND relationship.

Another way of thinking about it is “parenting beyond the binary.”

Read more about parenting with both respect and relationship in my book, “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent.”

https://untigering.com/untigering-peaceful-parenting-for-the-deconstructing-tiger-parent/




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“it’s ALL about the “AND”

I love my child. AND I struggle with their behavior.
I relish motherhood. AND I feel burnt out.
I am allowed to set boundaries. AND my child is allowed to feel.
I can be firm. AND respectful with my child.
There is what my child does… AND there is who they are.
I am imperfect. AND I am enough.

you’ve got this. and we’ve got you.

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