The Intentional Therapist

To be acquainted with grief is to know that you have chosen love at the risk of losing it all.

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

✨Proverbs 13:12

If the Lord had not been my help, my soul would soon have lived in the land of silence. When I thought, “My foot slips,” your steadfast love, O Lord, held me up. When the cares of my heart are many, your consolations cheer my soul.

✨Psalm 94:17-19

The Lord is near to the broken-hearted & saves the crushed in spirit.

✨Psalm 34:18

To grant those that mourn in Zion—to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit, that they may be called oaks of righteousness.

✨Isaiah 61:3

He was despised and rejected by men, a man or sorrows and acquainted with grief.

✨Isaiah 53:3

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This might be a bit cringy. This self-care tip is not though!

Go get yourself a fresh cucumber. Cut off the end. Throw it in your freezer. And it’s ready to use for your next facial.

Fun fact: It’s also super effective for targeting points around your face and neck that are connected to your vagus nerve which will kick in your brains “break-system” known as the parasympathetic system. Which is deeply needed if you are stressed or anxious (caught up in the fight/flight or sympathetic system overdrive).

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We all desire to be wanted and needed with those around us. And I wonder how many of us leave others feeling drained and unseen because we don’t have the awareness that the connection we seek isn’t leaving others with the connection they wanted or needed with us.

Here is one practical tool to consider implementing in your day to day interactions, in hopes that people leave from spending time with you, longing for more, because your presence was safe, accepting, warm, intentional, loving and like a massive hug.

Now this doesn’t mean you don’t get to be authentically yourself and share your needs, thoughts and feelings. But this post is about balancing your interactions with mindfulness that the way you feel most connected to others isn’t always the way they feel most connected.

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Some of our relational patterns of dysfunction are related to unresolved attachment wounds that we may or may not be aware of?

Attachments are first established with your parents. If these attachments or connections are harmful, wounding, traumatic, abusive or negligent—then we grow up as children and later adults living internal and external narratives tracking back to these foundational moments with our main attachment figures.

Some of us believe we are unloveable. Unworthy. Too much. Not enough. Always responsible. Unwanted. The list goes on and on, and most of these lies develop from very early ages, but these narratives carry into daily life with self and your relationships with others.

Is it no wonder that some of your perpetual problems in your intimate relationships may be connected to unconscious fears, cycles, lies and needs all spawning from early childhood experiences?

If you believe you’re always responsible then you might find yourself in a partnership with someone that celebrates your hyper-independence, and responsibility to juggle all of the things. Maybe you have a hard time asking for help? Team work in your relationship is minimal. And maybe you even have bitterness while thinking, “ I do everything, why doesn’t my partner help? Why do I have to ask?” This same adult, was a child whom was expected to parent or coparent their parents or siblings. Being a part of adult conversations about the stressors of finances, conflicts within the family unit, and emotionally soothing/comforting your parent. Expected to find the answer, the solution to reduce the tension and stress for your family or for your parents. Does this sound familiar?

Reminder: this page is for entertainment and educational purposes only & should not be used as a substitute or in place of mental health advice or treatment.