Shawn M. Keith, MS, LPC-S

“Compassion doesn’t only imply trying to be good. When we find ourselves in an aggressive relationship, we need to set clear boundaries. The kindest thing we can do for everyone concerned is to know when to say ‘enough.’ Many people use Buddhist ideals to justify self-debasement. In the name of not shutting our heart we let people walk all over us.

“It is said that in order not to break our vow of compassion we have to learn when to stop aggression and draw the line. There are times when the only way to bring down barriers is to set boundaries.”

- Pema Chodron, “The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times”

Image: Robert Peterson

Day 11 — Do One Thing Just for Joy (Releasing Early 🤍)

As a therapist who is also very human (and very much in the thick of the holidays), I want to gently remind you of something important: joy doesn’t have to be earned. It doesn’t have to be productive. And it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else.

Today’s challenge is simple on purpose.

Do one small thing just for joy.
A treat you love.
A favorite movie or song.
Baking without pressure.
Sitting quietly by the tree.
Anything that feels like comfort, softness, or a tiny exhale.

Joy isn’t selfish.
Joy is regulating.
Joy helps your nervous system remember that it’s safe to rest—even briefly.

I’m releasing Day 11 early because this season asks a lot of us, and sometimes we need permission before we think we do.

💬 Let me know what you did.
Your joy might give someone else permission to find theirs too.

I won’t be posting tomorrow.
Not because anything is wrong—but because sometimes we need space to let things land.
Take today’s reminders with you. Revisit one that resonated. Let it settle.
These practices aren’t meant to be rushed. Rest is part of the work too. 🤍

Day 8: A 2‑Minute Reset

Hand to heart. Deep breath.
“This is hard. I’m doing my best. I deserve gentleness today.”

The holiday season can be beautiful, but it can also be overwhelming. Stress piles up quickly—expectations, schedules, emotions, family dynamics, and the pressure to “hold it all together.” If you’re feeling stretched thin, you’re not alone.

I’m practicing this reset right alongside you. Even as a therapist, I’m not immune to the weight of this season. Taking two minutes to pause, place a hand over my heart, and speak to myself with kindness has been surprisingly challenging—and incredibly grounding.

This simple practice is a reminder that we don’t have to push through on sheer willpower. We can slow down. We can soften. We can offer ourselves the same compassion we extend to others.

If today feels heavy, try this reset with me. A moment of gentleness might be exactly what your nervous system needs.