Candace Jo

BF extended work trip w flirty female coworkersI prepped this to be his ”welcome back” dinner, but I made it for lunch. My first time making 3/4 of this. I normally make Caribbean foods, I think I did well 🤩

hot honey chicken tender, greens w smoked turkey leg, baked mac&cheese, cornbread.

edit: I thought a title was good enough 😂 behold and be entertained by my stupidity

my bf and I have been together for 8 years. He’s early thirties, I’m mid twenties. He is my first ever boyfriend.

A few months ago he mentioned to me that he was invited on a work related trip by his company. Pretty large corporation that I’m sure most people know. I was super proud and excited for him. I asked if I was able to go and he would reply “maybe, we’ll see. I think you’d be bored in the room all day.“ The trip was to the Bay Area and we live (together) in Tennessee. I shrugged it off until eventually he said that it would be too expensive for me to buy a ticket for a barely 3 day trip. I agreed and decided to enjoy some quality alone time.

The trip was this week, starting Monday and meant to end Wednesday. He called me at 2:09am and when I didn’t answer, he texted. It could be summed up ”Hey, I know it’s late. I’m going to stay a bit longer to explore the city. Everyone is going home, but A & B wanted to stay. I didn’t want them to stay here alone, it’s dangerous. I’ll be back home later this week. I love you.“

A & B are two female coworkers of his that I have had issues with in the past. The issues are not directly with them, but more so with the relationship he has with them. Technically he’s their boss. He is in group chats with them and has sent and received messages and shorts that I consider inappropriate. Some days it would start at 2am and end at midnight. I’ve spoken to him about this and he recognized the issue. I left but he said all of the right things and I wanted to believe him so bad. I’m not sure if it persisted because I am not in the habit of checking his phone. It was a stupid “loyalty test challenge“ his niece asked us to do for her YouTube and when she saw how uncomfortable I was she stopped recording and got really quiet. He assured me that A & B would not be there. Obviously they were.

I responded around 10am and told him that it was fine for him to stay, but don’t expect to come back to this house. I already planned to pick him up and began prepping yesterday. He told me it would be a couple of days, now it’s going to be a week? Insane. He called me asking what I meant and if I really didn’t care that two women would be in a city alone with no one they knew as if they hadn’t made the decision to stay longer. I told him that they had each other and if he stayed, they would have him too. I hung up, did a long workout, got ready for my day, and cooked. He called saying that his ticket couldn’t be changed again (yeah, right) and he already booked a new room. In a different city. I laughed and told him to have a good time, called his mom, and asked her to come over tonight to get some of his things. She said her son is a du***ss and she will be over in 3ish hours. We have keypad locks so I removed his codes and changed mine.

I should’ve seen the signs sooner, but I decided to trust someone that has little regard for my feelings. 8 years, no ring. I would almost feel better if I had a shut up ring. Almost. I had a long walk and will be taking myself on a nice date this weekend. I feel so stupid and incredibly embarrassed.

My brother’s daughter is also his nieceOk here’s the story…When I was in college, my twin brother started dating my housemate (I set them up). After a few years, they they had a kid and then eventually got married. On the day of their wedding, my half brother, who nobody had seen for about five years, showed up out of the blue. The three of them quickly became besties and when we all moved to a new city, those three got a place together.

Fast-forward a couple of years and it turns out that my sister-in-law still wanted to be my sister-in-law but she just wanted to trade up which brother she was married to. So my twin brother got divorced, my half brother got married, and family gatherings got complicated.

Skip ahead another couple of years and my my half brother and his new wife (my twin brothers ex wife) had a couple of kids. So now I have three nieces who are simultaneously sisters and cousins and who have dads who are both uncles and fathers.

Vanilla ice cream with a slice of chocolate cake