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I experience this type of response when I help clients or when working with family members. Hiring someone to help you with the project of downsizing, decluttering or moving takes a sensitive and understanding person to respect the process .
Sometimes it’s years of accumulation or maybe just a simple task of getting things back in order. Understand the journey it took for people to get where they are helps the process of moving forward 💕

Reposting:

A friend posted this writing today and it struck me that someday EVERYONE will go thru this discarding of “things” that are the memories of one’s life. Sometimes it’s our own and more often it’s the life of someone we love…..❤️
When my mom was cleaning out her house over 23 years ago to sell it, I wasn't very sympathetic over her attachments to things. I would go over on weekends to help her and we would go through things, things for a yard sale, things to donate, things to throw away. I would usually get upset over how long it was taking her to decide. For instance, we were going through kitchen cabinets and she spent 20 minutes looking at an iron kettle with a lid. Finally I said,
“Mom, at this rate it is going to take us another 2 years.”
She told me that her mother used to make meals in that kettle and leave them at doorsteps of neighbors during the depression, mom would deliver them, and then they would reappear back to her with an apron, or a wood carving, something in return for the meal. I realized that everything that my mom was going through was really a reliving of her life.
If you are reading this and are under the age of 60, you wont get it. You haven't lived long enough. Most of you have not had to move your parents into a nursing home, or emptied their home. You haven't lived long enough to realize that the hours you spend picking out the right cabinets, or the perfect tile will not be what matters in the later years. It will be the handmade toothbrush holder, or a picture that you got on vacation.
So, if your parents are downsizing, and moving to smaller places, or selling a home, give your mom and even your dad a break. Those things that you don't understand why they can’t just pitch, and why you think you know what needs to be tossed or saved, give them a little time to make their decisions. They are saying goodbye to their past, and realizing that they are getting ready for their end of life, while you are beginning your life.
As I have been going through things, its amazing just how hard it is to get rid of objects. But, life goes on, and you realize they are just things, but sometimes things comfort us. So give your parents or grandmparents a break. Listen to their stories, because in 40 years, when you are going through those boxes and the memories come back, it will be hard to get rid of those plastic champagne flutes that you and your late husband used at a New Years party 40 years ago. You will think nothing of the tile or the light fixtures that were so important then.
As happy as they are for you, and as much as they love you, you just don't have a clue until it happens to you and then you will remember how you rushed them, and it will make you sad, especially if they are already gone and you cant say I’m sorry, I didn’t get it.
~ Original Post Melissa Vaughan

Good tips to help you along you decluttering process.

Know your hoarding tendencies.
Start small:

1. 5 to 10 minutes at a time. If you start to feel overwhelmed, stop. Remember, you can’t change the reason why you ended up with your space being like this. You can begin looking forward. Where you want it to look like and how that makes you feel.
2. Donate the clothes you don't wear anymore.
3. Focus on one room at a time: start small like maybe the bathroom or pantry.
4. Ask for help: declutter living rooms with your family or your friends. If you aren’t comfortable working with them, then consider hiring someone to come in and work with you right where you are. No judgement.

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