Reddit AITA

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AITA for continuing a relationship with my ex husband's kids?

When I met my now ex, he had 2 kids. Twins, a boy and a girl. They were about 6 when I married their father. Their mother was never really involved in their life. I played the role as their mom. I taught his daughter about her body, I taught my son anything I knew about being a male. We both formed a great bond. The 3 of us shared similar tastes in nearly everything. Fast forward to last year. Me and my husband got divorced due to him having an affair with his current fiancé.

It hurt pretty badly, I loved him, I loved his kids and I didn't want to loose that. The twins are now 22 and they have been checking up on me for a while. They visited me for the first time in a while a few weeks ago. I really enjoyed seeing them again. I thought it would be fine to keep talking with them. I got a phone call soon after, it was their father. He asked why the kids were at my house and I told him they wanted to visit me.

He said we are no longer married and I'm blocking them from a relationship from their new step mother. I said its their choice if they want to continue a relationship with me and he got mad and hung up on me. Am I the ass for keeping a relationship?

Edit- due to health problems I'm unable to have children biologically. It means a lot to have these kids view me as their mother. I'm super grateful they are in my life. I'm super grateful I was able to have the experience of raising children, along with the bond of having them. I've went through something similar as a child. I had to cut contact with my step siblings after my step dad and mom divorced. I don't want history to repeat itself.

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AITA for basically calling my daughters teacher inept during a PTC meeting?

I'm personally having a tough one with this because I usually am very understanding, especially with everything going on in today's world; so I'm not sure if I took things too far.

My daughter is in 1st grade. Obviously last year she only had 4 months of Kindergarten before everything was shut down and the school system didnt offer any sort of remote learning after its closure. I tried my best to make up for her lack of schooling. Purchased loads of work books, bought subscriptions for things like Prodigy and ABCMouse, etc. By the end of the "school year" she was in a pretty good standing, considering both myself and her father work full time.

Anyways, this year starts up and low and behold they arent taking the kids education seriously, at all. We had a meeting 2 weeks before start-up saying that as a precaution, the kids would only have 2 days of schooling and the rest would be remote. No problem. I rearranged my work schedule to accommodate. But by the time school started, it was issue after issue. My daughter comes home with nothing but tracing homework (like, tracing her hand, every f__king week), has yet to get passwords/websites/or the promised laptop for virtual learning. Everything I taught her last year has gone out the window. Theres no reading or writing or math. It's basically just arts and crafts. Shes falling behind. My daughter comes home telling me that basically they just play all day. To top it off? Out of the 7 weeks that they have been in school (which, with 2 days a week she should have had 14 days at school) they have only been to school 5 days. Why? Because the school keeps saying "its teacher workshop day, no school" or "its cleaning day, no school". Mind you, the school is ONLY open for students Monday and Tuesday so they have literally the rest of the week because the teachers ARE at school until Friday.

So, we had a PTC meeting yesterday with her teacher and the super intendent...

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AITA for telling my ex to get over herself and s**u after she got mad at my son for not being in the room for his wife’s labor?

When my wife got pregnant I dumped her because she admitted to baby trapping me. We’ve had split custody of our son from the day he was born to the day he turned 18 when he then stayed with me full time as if his choice.

In 2017 my son married his high school sweet heart and about 4 months ago they decided to have a child. She recently decided that she wanted her mom in the room during her labor and everyone was perfectly fine with this except for my ex wife. She claimed that he as the father of this child needs to be “more realistic” and “be there for his wife during her time of need.”

We all just told her to stop cause she didn’t get to make that choice. He was fine with it and it’s what his wife wanted so my ex should not get an opinion on that matter. Well this went on for about 2 weeks and yesterday I’d had enough. We were all over there discussing a gender reveal, (nothing big they were just gonna have a friend make a cake. It would just be family) she brought up the “issue” with the delivery room and I got really annoyed.

I told her that she needed to shut the f__k up and get over herself because it wasn’t her child and she didn’t get to make that choice. She got really upset and started wailing so my son kicked her out. We went back to what we were doing and my daughter in law actually thanked me for saying something but I can’t help but feel like I was too harsh. Am I in the wrong here?