Nadia Vasu, LCSW, RPT

Beautifully stated Robyn Gobbel - Attachment, Trauma, & Adoption 😍

Big feelings are a bit like waves. They can come unannounced and knock us right over. When one comes another often follows and they can quickly begin to swirl together. We certainly can’t stop big feelings from coming, for ourselves or our children and teens. But we can learn to manage them and begin to take control. We can learn to surf. We can teach our children to surf. Important lessons for us all! One of the biggest steps in this is simply naming those feelings. Name them to tame them. When you notice that your child is excited, angry, scared, nervous etc. simply say what you see! We don’t need to rush in to push the feeling away. We do need to acknowledge it, name it and offer soothing support. When those waves knock us over cuddles can certainly help. It can be the same with big feelings!