Where to Find Bread

What are you addicted to? In my search to make peace, wholeness, and joy mainstays in my life, I'm learning about addiction. It's more than just the typical things I think of like drugs, alcohol, and even s*x.

For example, I can't stand for my mind to be unoccupied, to be bored. So, I fill my time with things that reward my desire for the new and novel - things that interest and occupy me. Scrolling, cooking and eating, lots of things, actually.

In order to recognize what's true, I have to be able to recognize the counterfeit.

Here's the key: first, I need to reset my dopamine responses. When I learn to increasingly sit with discomfort I reset my reward pleasure cycle. Over time, Dr. Anna Lembke says, I'll rediscover joy.

I'm getting on that. Watch this and then tell me, what are your resets and how will you get started?

Get Motivated With The #1 Dopamine Expert In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to get motivated, even when you don’t feel like it.

A good explanation of the impacts of partner betrayal trauma on the brain. It's not a small deal, folks.

What Betrayal Trauma Does to the Brain | The Impacts of Partner Betrayal Trauma Did you know that partner betrayal trauma can have a devastating impact? Research shows that approximately 70% of individuals who experience infidelity or si...

How to tell if your partner is an Intimacy Anorexic. I thought it was me. Maybe it's NOT your fault. For sure, it's not.

Are You Living With an Intimacy Anorexic? I Was and Didn’t Know When my husband confessed s*xual addiction and the regular use of po*******hy through our entire marriage I was stunned and numb. For 43 years he gaslighted, rejected, and lied to me. But, because I found these resources I found hope. I learned it wasn’t my fault. I began to heal.

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Great answers to questions about how we can go for years and not realize what's being done to us...

The Neurobiology of Gaslighting, Deception, and Manipulation: How to Heal Have you questioned your own sanity, your instincts, and your memory after discovering your partner’s double life? 💔 If you are the betrayed partner of a se...

When someone you love has been betrayed, knowing what to say — and what NOT to say — can make all the difference.

In this short video, I share the exact words that actually help someone healing from betrayal trauma. Not the clichés. Not the quick fixes. The things that make someone feel seen, safe, and supported when their world has fallen apart.

These words are for anyone to share with the betrayed, friends, family members, and loved ones who want to show up well — but don't always know how.🕯️

Link to What to Say When Someone You Love is Betrayed in bio and comments below.

In Episode 3 of the Where to Find Bread Podcast, I share a personal part of my story and the surprising way Internal Family Systems helped me understand why I had such a hard time crying, naming pain, and letting go of secrecy. What began as a question in therapy led me to a protective part of myself I call Cry Baby, and from there, to a much larger realization: for years, I had been living under the label of victim.

That word shaped more than I knew. It influenced how I saw myself, how I moved through the world, and how others responded to me. In this episode, I talk honestly about the long shadow of trauma, the burden of negative identity labels, and the freedom that comes when I begin choosing new words on purpose.

This conversation is about healing, but it is also about more than healing. It is about thriving.

Listen or watch the full episode on YouTube () or wherever you get your podcasts.