Shine - Speech Language Pathology

As parents, we all want to seize teachable moments. However, it’s important to remember that when a young child is dysregulated, or having a difficult time calming down, it is not the best moment to teach the behavior you want to see.

Follow these three steps.
1. Calm
2. Connect
3. Teach

One: Toddlers need our calm presence in order to find their calm. This is called co-regulation. If you are struggling to find your calm, it’s going to be really challenging to calm your child. The first step to teaching your child the behavior you want to see, is to first self reflect on your own body based feelings. What do you need to help you find your calm, so you can nurture your child’s brain development by helping them find their calm?

Two: We focus on connection. Connecting with your child nurtures their developing brain. Being with your child is powerful and helps them feel seen, heard and loved. Slow down, join in, get face to face and create space to just be fully present in the moment.

Three: Now we have our teachable opportunity. Model the behavior you want to see. Children will mirror what we say and do over time. Our intention matters. Give your child the words you want them to use. Follow through with loving action by showing your toddler what they need to do.

The foundation of all communication begins with attachment and social interaction.

So when I’m first introducing language strategies with a family, we start with connection and sharing a moment.

What moments in your day do you have for sharing an experience with your child?

How do you feel about your child’s ability to engage with others?

What do you notice in your child’s behavior when you follow them with their interests?

I want you to hear this: your love matters. It truly makes a difference in your child’s life. ❤️ Love is the foundation where resilience grows. So keep showing up, even when it’s messy, even when it’s hard. Every little moment, no matter how imperfect, adds up to a lifetime of memories and strength.

You’re making an impact, one day at a time. ✨