Dr. Liz Powell

If you're worried that speaking up about your discomfort will ruin the mood, I'm going to let you know a secret. If you're not into it, the mood is already off, and you're putting your partner's pleasure over your own.

The mood is NOT that delicate! It's fluid and can be rebuilt if something falls off the rails for a moment.

When you speak up, you're making space for both you and your partner to have a pleasurable scene!

And if your partner makes a big deal about your communicating your needs? Well, that says a lot more about them than it does about you.

Your pleasure matters. Every time. 💜

I am not a fan of a culture of disposability AND sometimes, keeping people in our lives is harmful. You are the only person who can know how much of a relationship you can have with someone without it being more harm than good.

When you have loved ones who vote against your interests and livelihood, it can be empowering to have a conversation with them. However, we must always look at the consequences. What are the consequences of being honest about how you feel or how their political beliefs have impacted you? Do you rely on this loved one financially? Do you have a support system outside of them?

Sometimes, there are no easy choices, only hard ones. But finding ways to advocate for yourself or hear other perspectives can help you make the best choice for your well-being. 💜