The Kintsugi Heart Method - Putting the Pieces Back Together

All relationships are different – they all provide us something we need at the time, lessons to learn. We have to stop believing that if a marriage doesn't last till "death do us part" that we have failed. No, we haven't failed. The relationship has served its purpose, and its completion is a natural part of life's journey.

Each relationship helps us grow, understand ourselves better, and prepare for future experiences. When we look at it this way, it allows us to appreciate the beauty of the time we shared, rather than viewing its end as a failure.

It’s ok to look back - but only if we don’t dwell there.

When we spend too much time in our past it obviously prevents us from living fully in the now. Reopening old wounds, rethinking how we might have behaved or reacted differently, basically beating ourselves up for being human. We need to forgive ourselves, accept where we are today, and love ourselves for being a flawed, complicated, and amazing human.

Yes, we all want to plan out our pretty little lives - but no amount of planning can prevent change - change that shows up whether we’ve invited it or not. And when it pays us a visit, we have to host it.

So if we must look back, and we will, we need to just make it a quick look over the shoulder. Smile when we stumble upon beautiful memories and quickly jump over the others that make us sad, mad, or leave us full of regret. I realize that’s not so easy to do. It does take practice and it does take discipline. But it’s worth it. It can give us our life back.

There’s a future out there. Full of new adventures, possibilities, and opportunity. Walk towards it. Make a commitment to spend each day as best you can, living it fully - for one day, these will be the days you look back on.