The Passion Lab

Thank you so much for sending me a new ohnut and carry case ❤️

I damaged my original demo ohnut from not storing it properly. I had it for 4 years, so I’d like to thing we had a good run.

The Pelvic People customer service were kind enough to send me a new product and a case when I explained the situation. Now I don’t have to apologetically pull cat hair off of them when I’m showing them to people 😅😸

Make this a goal for the new year! Prioritizing your pleasure is a turn-on. I hear from a lot of clients that they feel guilty asking for what they want or saying what they need. This usually happens when s*x isn't going well—too painful, to triggering, too dull. ⁣⁠
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The fear is that they will disappoint their partners, stop the flow, or somehow ruin the moment. ⁣⁠
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How do you get to that place, though? The ability to express yourself in such a vulnerable space is easier said than done. It might involve changing your thought patterns, like "I will always be in pain" to "Pain isn't part of s*x, I deserve to enjoy this, too." It might also involve practicing assertiveness, the ability to ask for what you want, and set boundaries. ⁣⁠
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If these things are difficult for you, seeing a s*x therapist or coach can help you get clear on what's getting in the way of your pleasure and make a plan for what to do about it. ⁣⁠
*xtherpy *xtherapist *xshame *xualguilt

Just in time for the New Year keep this reminder with you.

🌸Your Body, Your Rules 🌼⁣⁣⁠⠀
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You are in control of deciding what you 𝗪𝐚𝐧𝐭 to do, what you are 𝗪𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 to try, and what you 𝗪𝐨𝐧'𝐭 do. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
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It is also your choice who you are and aren't fu***ng. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
It is your choice how many you f**k at a time. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
It is your choice how many people you love at a time. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
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You can change how you describe your s*xual orientation. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
You can change how you describe your gender. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
You can change how you express yourself. ⁣⁣⁠⠀
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It's about you first and foremost.⁣⁣⁠⠀
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𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵.⁣⁣⁠⠀
Just in time for the New Year, keep this reminder with you. e *xualfreedom *xtherpiast

If you’re trying to squ!rt, push out instead of tightening up. There isn't a lot of research into squ!rting, so lots is still unknown. One thing I've noticed when trying to squ!rt, though, is that I'm more likely to have it happen when I simultaneously push out and relax my pelvic muscles. ⁣
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I also notice I'm more likely to squ!rt when in a straddle position— sitting on my knees, legs spread out. ⁣
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Anyone else has any tips, I imagine different things work for different people, but the more ideas, the better!⁣
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I want s*x tips to be like self-care tips, everyone has their ways of self-care, but there is so much content around what might help someone else so that people can get ideas and find out what works for them. ⁣
*xualeducation !rt 💦