Reworking Mindsets

Scores change. Results fluctuate. Numbers go up and down.

If you measure yourself by the outcome alone, you’ll always be chasing something that moves.

The outcome is just one moment. ☝🏻

One game. One quarter. One conversation. One attempt.

It tells you what happened, not what you’re capable of. Not how hard you worked to get there and the growth you made along the way.

Your effort is the part you control. It’s the reps nobody sees, the days you showed up when you didn’t want to, the work you put in before the moment even arrived.

That’s the real story.

Not the outcome or end result.

Confidence isn’t just a feeling you wait for. 😬

If you’re waiting to FEEL confident before you do the thing, you might be waiting forever.

Confidence starts with a choice. You make a decision that you’re going to do it and then act.

There are going to be nerves. There might even be fear.

That’s not a sign that you’re not ready. That’s just what comes with doing something new that matters and you care about.

You have two choices:
1 - Wait until those feelings go away (they probably won’t)
2 - Take action anyway, ideally using the feelings as energy

When you decide to go for it you’ll either learn something that gets you closer next time, or you’ll show yourself that you were capable of doing it all along.

Both of those are wins! 🙌🏻

From there, you repeat. Make the decision again. Take the action again. Learn more or build more evidence that you can do it.

Over time, that track record you built through choices and actions proves to yourself that you’re more and more capable.

You don’t find confidence, you build it. One decision, one action, one rep at a time. 😤

This is the simplest and hardest concept I introduce.

Simple because it takes just a few seconds to understand. Hard because catching yourself in the moment takes practice.

The event is going to happen. The bad break, the missed opportunity, the thing you didn’t see coming. That part is usually out of your control.

How you respond to that? That’s always within your control, and that choice shapes everything that follows.

E+R=O

Event + Response = Outcome