Grieving Is Breathing

Your friends aren’t looking to use their grief to attention seek. They’re looking for safety. Looking for understanding. Looking for shelter in the friends who told them they would be there.

It’s a shelter we can provide. In life, there will be times that a friend will give more than they get. Grief is one of those times.

Give them the love kindness, empathy and understanding they deserve. It’s that important

You may only be able to get out of bed while grieving. That may be a full days work. Other days, it may be full tears while working.

Often, sometimes all you can do, may be your best. It may be just getting out of bed, but when you have love and compassion for yourself while you grieve, you give yourself the space to grief be there without feeling like you have failed

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At some point in our lives, we will either be in a situation where grief shows itself or we may be the reason someone grieves.

It’s normal to feel afraid of grief, because grief means a great loss has happened in our life. When I say don’t be afraid, it’s because none of us can stop it.

So while our people and we are still here: lead with love. Lead with kindness. Enjoy life and experiences with one another, because those are the things we remember the most

Grief takes. We know it does. It’s not that grief can’t be other things but when we first are introduced to it. It’s sad. There’s anger. There’s hurt.

But in grief is their love. And our love to. It’s what gets us through hard days even when we don’t have them.

“It’s the place you needed to be.” “Grief you see, can be dark. It is dark” “I hated when people gave me flowers after I lost someone special, but it was still needed” “You hate grief right now, but it’ll be what you need when you come to plant yourself again” “Their love is the soil. It’ll always be”-Grieving Is Breathing

Your friends aren’t attention seeking. They need attention. They need friendship. They need connection. They need understanding. They need love.

They need their friends. They need you. He doesn’t mean that they’re going to trauma dump on you at every given opportunity. But they do want to talk about their loved ones.

Give them something actionable. Instead of hit me up when you need me, say I’d love if you join me for a movie tonight. Or hey, I’m grabbing some coffee can I bring you some?

We don’t have to do drastic actions. Often it’s the simple things that are grieving friends really appreciate.

Grief changes you in a way that you’re not ready for. It changes how you communicate. Changes you move through this world.

It changes how you view others. How you view yourself. You be more softer in how you approach people. But you may not laugh as often. You may laugh a little more but grief doesn’t let you laugh as you used to.

Grief will always be a part of life.