In.cen.tive

Whether you’re younger or older this still applies…

If your values, belief system and the way you see the world is different than your background or how you were raised, and you feel like you can’t truly do the things you want to do because you wouldn’t get approval from your family or you would be exhausted trying to explain yourself knowing most wouldn’t understand…

This is your reminder that you are not your parents.

Separating yourself and your uniqueness from their expectations is the only way you’re going to be able to be truly happy. Your individuality is only yours and being different than what you were taught doesn’t mean anything about you or them, and it certainly doesn’t mean you don’t love the people who contributed to who are you, it just means you love you more.

I know this is not everyone, but if it’s you or if you’ve ever felt this way, comment so I know you’re out there 😊 I’ve been in your shoes and want this page to be a place to help you discover what the future could look like from your individuality while feeling a lot less stress and guilt when your dreams suddenly become the “unapproved” route.

One thing I wish I someone told me sooner....

Surround yourself with the people who are going to make you better (IRL and on social).

It’s kind of like the saying “if you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.” Theres so much to learn about yourself, other people, and the world and you will only be as good as the people you have in your circle, so whose in yours? 👀

Are they working on themselves?

Are they living in a way that inspires you?

What do they care about? (Relevant to my previous post this week)

Who else do they surround themselves with?

If you’re growing into who you REALLY are (after being who you thought you were supposed to be), don’t be surprised when you feel like who and what was once “okay” isn’t how you feel anymore. My circle from 10 years ago, or even 5 years ago looks a lot different than it does today.

Choose the people for where you’re going (meaning who you want to learn from) and who you legitimately want to be around. The more you intentionally make room for YOUR people, the more you’ll find out who adds to your life in the best and most vibrant of ways (and you’ll discover that you start to be that person too which is a cool experience 👌).

What are you passionate about?

Remember being a young 20-something and feeling like you had to be a certain way, for your parents and friends? 🙄 And now you’re in a place in life where you’re like, this just isn’t ME anymore, and you’ve decided to do you, and be the most you, no matter what they say. You just know you have to figure out what that really means and what life’s going to look like over the next 6 months, or year, or longer.

If this is you, sit with yourself and ask the tougher questions you might not know the answers to yet. When you start to know yourself in a deeper way, life starts to feel different and what’s for you or not for you becomes so much clearer.

Fact about me (I was going to say fun fact but it wasn’t really all that fun 🤓): I went to Catholic school my whole life and followed all the rules before I was like “oh hell no, this isn’t me.” And I realized life is full of possibilities, and it was just a matter of working hard to find out what I didn’t know about and become the person I wanted to be. For me.

This is what I’m passionate about. Freedom and the unconventional. You being who you really ARE, no matter your background or environments.

And I know you can do it too, for you. It’s a lot more fun when you have someone in your corner to guide you (like me, I’m that person) but start here by asking yourself what you’re passionate about. What do you really care about, for yourself or for the world?

The equation for life is simple.
Insight + action = a result.

I shared at the I4 Veterinary Intervention last week that focusing on your best and changing what isn’t working for you is how you become confident in yourself. Life doesn’t work when you keep doing the same things and wishing and waiting for something to change. If you want something different, like new energy in your world this year (and we ALL need some freshness in this pandemic decade) you need to make a change to the equation.

And then, you need to find someone who knows you so they can help you channel your inner voice when you forget. Because we all need those people in our lives, but we really need them as our inspiration when we’re evolving into the best version of ourselves. It seems really simple when you break it down, but it’s certainly not the easiest to embrace.

So if you want some fierce fresh energy:
Decide what kind of change you want
Take one NEW action
Be patient and consistent
Watch it unfold and happen

Think about what you’re changing this year - or even just over the next 3 months. If you’re rewriting your equation, let’s work that out for 20 mins together before more time goes by feeling stale. Either comment here or you can use the link in my bio to set a time on our calendars for the fresh energy you need.

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