Conversations with Kelly

To love someone so deeply and lose them physically to death is one of life’s hardest experiences. What is important for the world to understand is that when we are asked to “move on” from grieving, we are also being asked to move on and leave the love. The two are forever interconnected.

I have never met a griever willing to leave love behind, nor should they. Let people have their grief. Let people hold onto their love. The sacredness of the love shared between two humans is profound. We share it forever.

Be extra gentle today, friends. Your grief and love are held softly here. Even in the silence of their physical absence, love continues to breathe through memory, saying their name, and the enduring connection that death can never take away. ♥️

2026-Conversations with Kelly ®️

As I always say … grief and love are a mirror for one another ❤️

I held a party the other week and grief came.
She wasn’t invited but she came anyway - barged her way in through the door and settled down like she was here to stay.

And then she introduced me to the friends she’d brought with her - Anger. Fear. Frustration. Guilt. Hopelessness.

And they sang in the loudest voices, took up space in every corner of the room and spoke over anyone else that tried to talk.

They made it messy and loud and uncomfortable.

But finally, they left.

And long afterwards, when I was all alone,
I realised there was still someone here.
Quietly clearing up after the rest.

I asked who she was and she told me, “Love.”

And I assumed that’s why she looked familiar - because I had met her before.

“Or perhaps,” she said, “it’s because I’ve been here the whole time.”

And I was confused then because I hadn’t seen her all evening.
But when I looked more closely,
when I looked into her eyes,

I realised quietly that she had been here.
All the time.

She’d just been dressed as grief.

Becky Hemsley 2023