Jaime Nolan

I had an Aha moment recently that hit me like a ton of bricks.

I was driving to pick up one of my kids, listening to Gary Vee’s podcast, when he said:

“Attention is our greatest asset.”

My immediate thought was “I don’t want that asset.” And it stopped me in my tracks. Right before this I was in an all day session with we were talking about your money story and all transparency was annoyed I was doing this exercise for like the 10th in my life and the story is still the same. I realized something I’ve been carrying since I was 7 years old: My entire plan in life has been to fly just under the radar, to avoid being “found out.” It’s not like there is something to find out, it’s a feeling that some day the “gig will be up”

Growing up in the 80s with undiagnosed ADHD and dyslexia, school was hard. I remember the shame of being called on to read aloud, of struggling to keep up, of feeling like I must have missed the day where everyone else learned all of this. Back then, there weren’t words for what I was experiencing—just the silent judgment of not “paying attention”

So I learned to stay small. To hide the parts of me that felt broken. To avoid surprise attention and only create attention to me in areas that I was excellent in.

But here’s the kicker: Success—true, visible success—means being seen. And to my 7-year-old self, being seen felt like the least safe thing in the world.

Hearing Gary Vee and my immediate reaction made me realize I’ve been carrying this belief for decades. It’s shaped everything—how I show up, how I grow, and even what I believe I deserve.

I’m untangling this web in real time, the subconscious is always an interesting place to go!

Last night I was at the awesome event! There were so many amazing women there. I met the awesome Shea from and we were talking about life and business and the interesting road we all have traveled on and what is coming next she said “I show up so the universe can exceed my expectations!” I love this, like really really love this! I may have made her repeat it 3 times 😉

How many times in life are we expecting s**t to go wrong? How often do we settle for good enough? What if you walked around with the expectation that life is planning on exceeding our expectations!?

Thank you for the reminder Shea! Let’s see what expectations we can exceed!!