Therapy Untangled

Establish a boundary is very challenging when you have the tendency to avoid uncomfortable feelings 😥

When you grow up avoiding conflicts, judgements or, simply, looking for people’s approval all the time, it is normal that you panic just from the thought of breaking this pattern.

You will begin to feel uncomfortable in your own skin and then backtrack to what is comfortable.

Thus, it is important to be conscious of this and allow those feelings to emerge, recognize them without giving into those impulses, prepare for the situation so that you can stay true to yourself and continue with the intention of letting others know what your boundaries are. Even if that means deceiving or inconveniencing them. ❤️

What other phrases can you say to yourself if you begin to have doubts prior to communicating your boundaries? I hear you 🙌🏻

Self-betrayal is when we choose to go against our needs and what works and is good for US.

These are some examples that I've seen in my practice, and I know there are many more.

So, I'd love to know if you guys have any other examples. I read you. ❤️

From the minute we step foot into this world, we are immediately assigned a label.

That label will determine what type of clothing we’ll wear, the types of interests we should have, and what behaviors are considered “acceptable”.

Labels can be present in every facet of our lives, which can then lead to problematic assumptions and determine our place in society. Our assigned role can dictate the types of resources we will have access to.

Whenever a label is placed on us we ask ourselves:

⭐️How does this label play a role in my position in society?

⭐️What about if my values and beliefs don't match up to that label?

Every time you say "I am ..." you're setting yourself up to that limitation.- This was a phrase I heard .holistic.psychologist say in a podcast with .

What labels have society placed on you and how have they affected the way you view yourself?

Certain labels can create barriers. And I believe in GROWTH! I believe in YOU creating YOUR OWN LABELS that actually serve YOU.

"I am worthy! I am loved! and I am confident" are labels that empower you and make you want to succeed.

I am ______ fill in the blank in the comments! ⬇

The story of how I set my first boundary…

The day I set my first boundary was one of the most challenging days of my life: all my fears came true and even exceeded my negative expectations. I didn't lose the relationship with this person, but there were manipulations and threats about it in the process.
What I experienced on an emotional level was intense. The shock of the disproportionate reaction was hard to process, the mourning of what I would have liked to happen was really painful.

The day I set my first boundary, I understood that the risk of hurting, disappointing, or angering and potentially losing that person will always exist when bounds are set with someone who relates to someone submerged on ego and a need for control.

Still, I confess: that day was the beginning of MY life (it was finally mine!).

❤️‍🩹 A life where I felt free...

❤️‍🩹 A life where I didn't have to hide...

❤️‍🩹 A life in which I could flow with my words and fear didn't stop me, but the other way around: it empowered me...

My experience has given me the opportunity to impact and connect with many hearts around the world that, like me, have felt fear.

You’ve shared your experience with me in the comments. I just wanted to share a little bit of mine with you ♥️

Thanks for being here and for allowing me to be part of your beautiful journey.

Stephanie

The story of how I set my first boundary…

The day I set my first boundary was one of the most challenging days of my life: all my fears came true and even exceeded my negative expectations. I didn't lose the relationship with this person, but there were manipulations and threats about it in the process.
What I experienced on an emotional level was intense. The shock of the disproportionate reaction was hard to process, the mourning of what I would have liked to happen was really painful.

The day I set my first boundary, I understood that the risk of hurting, disappointing, or angering and potentially losing that person will always exist when bounds are set with someone who relates to someone submerged on ego and a need for control.

Still, I confess: that day was the beginning of MY life (it was finally mine!).

❤️‍🩹 A life where I felt free...

❤️‍🩹 A life where I didn't have to hide...

❤️‍🩹 A life in which I could flow with my words and fear didn't stop me, but the other way around: it empowered me...

My experience has given me the opportunity to impact and connect with many hearts around the world that, like me, have felt fear.

You’ve shared your experience with me in the comments. I just wanted to share a little bit of mine with you ♥️

Thanks for being here and for allowing me to be part of your beautiful journey.

Stephanie

It feels so painful wanting to be different, to compare ourselves, that we don't like who we are, and we get in this internal fight.

We look for how to fill our time, body, and mind with something that distracts us from the pain.

And I share with you this:

There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life”.

Tara Branch ()
📖: Radical Acceptance.
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