The Awakening Partnership

We remember the saying, “try to put yourself in their shoes.” Yes, that was accurate. AND — if we’re not present enough, will we even remember to do that let alone know how to?

If we are healthy enough, and consequently can be present enough, we have an opportunity to allow ourselves to get a sense of what someone else is experiencing.

When we are able to do this well enough, we put aside our agenda and step into the connection that exists. This is a necessary function and practice of an awakening partnership. The dance is balancing our health and wellbeing with the health and wellbeing of our partner — and all of those we love.

The challenge isn’t “how do we connect” or “how do we empathize”…the challenge is “are we present enough” to one another.

Trust & Enjoy,

Judi & Ryan

Stretching is different from sacrificing. Sacrificing might be something of a slippery-and-pathological slope that can-and-often-does lead to codependency.

Stretching is an act of growth. It’s about expansion. It’s about holding space for someone in ways you never thought possible, and more importantly, in ways that are healing and transformative for both of you! It wires you for a deepened capacity for love! Your desire and willingness to stretch offers your partner an opportunity to heal like no other can.

So as the ol’ saying goes: “You can be right or be married.” Or as we might now also say: “You can stretch or be single.”

One of the themes that comes up regularly at the beginning and during the process is — individuals expressing that they are wanting the relationship to end.
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In many ways this makes complete sense. The stifling truth is that couples often get stuck in “survival mode,” and when they do, it is almost inevitable that they arrive at a place of confusion, frustration, and despair. The silver lining is — it isn’t that they necessarily want their journey together to end. What they‘re hoping for is to put this dysfunctional version of their partnership behind them. Clients typically still deeply love their significant other, AND they have come to dislike dynamics about themselves, their person, and the current status of their relationship. This is why Self-Development tools and practices for both individuals is a necessary and pivotal step of any awakening partnership.
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Without regular practices that allow both individuals to grow, it will be difficult, if not altogether impossible, to correct the existing imbalances. Transforming the pain connected to our past is an indispensable part of establishing a new and healthy journey. We must overcome the natural resistance (fear) to doing the work or face one of two possible outcomes: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result (i.e. insanity) or divorce/uncoupling.
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Trust & Enjoy
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Judi & Ryan