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For 15 years my Principle, and the congregation has been doing a 2 mile prayer walk down a major crime infested street. We’ve been stopping and praying in front of one of the sources of the crime a liquor store. This year the church purchased it. This brings another element to have to protect against.

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14 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

1. BE PEACEFUL
People find themselves coming back to where they find peace

2. MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS
When your spouse knows that from you, their s*xual and emotional needs are met, they will keep coming back

3. BE APPRECIATIVE
Celebrate your spouse, show that you value him/her. People go where they are celebrated, not tolerated

4. ADD VALUE
When your spouse is with you, let him/her leave better, wiser, more refreshed, lighter, happier than they were before. Be that person who adds value to your spouse's purpose and quality of day

5. DO NOT BE JUDGEMENTAL
Refrain from being one who makes conclusive statements such as "You always do this and that" or looking at your spouse differently when he/she does something that doesn't sit right with you or opens up to you about something unpleasant. People avoid environments of judgment

6. BE GOOD AT TOUCHING
Learn how to touch your spouse, how he/she loves being held. Your spouse will keep coming for the touch

7. AVOID FIGHTS
Have control over your temper, know how to deescalate things. Not every disagreement should result into a fight. Avoid drama

8. DON'T COMPLAIN YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT SPENDING TIME WITH YOU
The mistake many make is to attack and complain to their spouse about how he/she no longer makes time. This pushes your spouse away instead of inviting your spouse

9. TALK ABOUT WHAT HE/SHE LIKES
Learn your spouse's favourite topics and engage. It will keep you from being boring

10. BE FUN
Don't take life too seriously, don't suck the air in the room, don't be negative. Respond to your spouse's naughtiness, flirting and playful nature. Fun is inviting

11. BE A GOOD LISTENER
People go where they feel heard. Don't dominate conversations. Show your spouse his/her thoughts, opinions and stories matter

12. COMMUNICATE THAT YOU MISS YOUR SPOUSE
Let your spouse know how great a time you two have together. It will make your spouse feel important

MARRIAGE IS NOT A SCAM...✍️

1. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some men are getting married with a lowly and negative view of women and some women marrying with a repulsive and suspicious view of men. Work on your view of the opposite gender.

2. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some couples are living together without having a joint vision and values. Work on the foundation of your marriage.

3. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are marrying for the wrong motives, when the motive is wrong, everything crumbles. Ask yourself and your spouse, "Why did you get married?"

4. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are too selfish in marriage to consider the other person. Love calls you to be considerate of the other.

5. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people married and became parents without sufficient preparation. What you're not prepared for will overwhelm you. Study, learn, buy books, read articles, go for counselling to equip you with tools in how to be a better parent and spouse. Don't pretend to be a "Know it all" yet your family is not getting your best.

6. Marriage is not a scam. It is that some people would rather hold on to their pride than admit wrong and say sorry. Your marriage needs humility.

7. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are getting married without healing from the pain of their childhood. The bullying, rejection, pain, trauma you experienced as a child can destroy your marriage if you don't heal.

8. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people used to quit easily in their dating relationships and now they don't know how to quit in marriage because they are tied by a marriage certificate, public pressure and children. Stop this habit of being a quitter, marriage will require effort. This is not dating, this is marriage.

9. Marriage is not a scam. It is just some are sadly listening to the wrong advice of bitter friends and hurting social media souls that will make you think marriage is the worst thing on earth. Check who you listen to and what you consume.

10. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some are putting the right effort in affairs and not in their marriage; making affairs look exciting and marriage boring. Put that investment and energy in your marriage, not outside.

11. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people did not receive a good example from their parent's marriage. Your parents should not determine the quality of family you have. You two determine how this love will go.

12. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that many adults know what to do to make things right, but because of anger, laziness or self centeredness they refuse to put it into action. Why are you being stubborn?

13. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that people are itching to hold on to bad news. Negative news about marriage spreads faster than good news. Don't believe the lie that every couple is in misery. There are many thriving couples out there.

14. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people would rather gossip and slander a couple going through an issue than pray and support them. Each couple has challenges and with the right mindset, support and actions; they will make it, becoming better than they were before the challenge.

15. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that many people are inconsistent in their effort in marriage. They give their spouse mixed signals. Maturity calls for consistency. Make up your mind, are you two making this marriage work or not?

16. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people give up too easily. They expect a good marriage instantly, you have keep at it over time.