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Bruce made me smile this week (as usual).
He wandered over while I was sitting outside
drinking tea and replying to emails on my phone

And he sat beside me in the sun
That was it.

He wasn't asking for anything.
He just wanted to be close.

I stopped what I was doing and thought...
When was the last time I did that?

Just... stopped.

No phone.
No to-do list.
Just sat there.

In this moment, Bruce reminded me of something I've been making way too complicated.

Bruce doesn't spend much time wondering
if he's doing enough...
or if he should be somewhere else.

If there's sunshine, he finds it.
If someone scratches behind his ears… he leans in.
If we're sitting outside together, that's enough.

I think I needed that reminder this week.
Maybe we all do.

Anyway...
That's what Bruce and I were thinking about over tea this week.

I hope you find a little sunshine,
and a reason to slow down for a few minutes this weekend. 🫖🐾

We tend to think burnout has to look dramatic.
But sometimes it looks like making dinner.
Doing another load of laundry.
Going to work.
Smiling....

And wondering why you feel so overwhelmed by a life that you're grateful for.

That was me.

I recently had the privilege of sitting down with Sandy Davis on 𝘌𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘞𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 to talk about the burnout that doesn't come from a corner office, the guilt so many moms quietly carry, and the mindset shifts that helped me stop waiting for life to settle down before creating more joy.

We also talked about one of my favorite tools...
segment intending, a simple practice that brings purpose to everyday life.

I was honored to be part of Sandy's summer series, all about women navigating the messy middle.

🎙️ 𝘔𝘰𝘮 𝘉𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘵, 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘵 & 𝘊𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘑𝘰𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘔𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘺 𝘔𝘪𝘥𝘥𝘭𝘦

I'll put the links in the comments if you'd like to listen.

We’re really bad at accepting compliments.
The other day, someone told me I did a great job.
Before I even realized what I was doing.. I replied,

Oh .. it was nothing.

Really?
Nothing?

Then why was I up thinking about it at 2:00 in the morning a few nights before? 😄

Seriously though, I know other women do the same thing.

"You look great."
Oh, this old thing?

“Congratulations!"
I just got lucky.

"You handled that really well."
It wasn't just me.

It's almost like someone hands us a compliment.....and we immediately hand it back.

Somewhere along the way, I think we learned that.

Because if someone complimented one of my friends,

I'd never jump in and say,
Actually... she wasn't that great.

Can you imagine?
No... I'd let her have the moment.

So why is it so hard to let ourselves have it?

I’ve been pausing recently and trying something different…

Not a big mindset exercise.
Not an affirmation.
Just two words.

Thank you.

It still feels a little awkward sometimes.

But I'm starting to realize that saying "thank you" isn't bragging.
It's simply accepting a kind gift someone wanted to give.

So, this week, I'm practicing letting the compliment land.
Maybe that’s something every woman deserves a little more of.

To the parents of teenagers…
Something happened last night that stayed with me.

My daughter had a group of friends over.
They laughed, watched Love Island,
ate way too many snacks, and just… hung out.

(Yes… Love Island. 😂 Probably not the show I would’ve chosen, but

let’s be honest… I’d take a basement full of giggling teenagers over wondering where they are any day.)

Every now and then I’d hear them all burst out laughing, and it reminded me that underneath all the growing up they’re trying so hard to do…

they’re still just kids.

It was simple.
And honestly, it made me smile.

I know some adults might immediately think of mistakes some kids have made.

Let's face it..
Teenagers aren’t perfect.

They test boundaries.
They make decisions they later wish they hadn’t.

But I got to watch these kids be respectful,
kind, grateful, and simply enjoy being together.

It made me wonder how often we accidentally define young people by one chapter ...instead of remembering they’re still writing their story.

What if, instead of assuming the worst,
we focused on creating places where they could make better choices?

A house where they know they’re welcome.
Where they know what’s expected.

Where they can laugh, be silly, eat junk food,
binge a series, and just be teenagers.

No need to impress anyone.
No pressure to fit in.

Just permission to be kids for a little while longer.

As parents, we can’t control every choice they’ll make.
But we can choose the environment we create.

Sometimes love looks like open doors.
Sometimes it looks like clear boundaries.

And sometimes it looks like a basement full of laughing teenagers who feel safe enough to simply be kids.

If our home can be one of the places where they feel safe, accepted... and know exactly where the boundaries are…

I’d call that a pretty good night. ❤️

P.S. I did go downstairs a couple of times to check the scene….. I’m not completely naïve … and I was pleasantly surprised

P.P.S. Who is Sincere? And do you think he is now insincere? Inquiring minds want to know!

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spend your day looking for what's wrong?

Like... the unfinished to-do list, the thing you forgot, or tthe conversation that didn't go quite as planned.

Our brains are naturally wired to spot problems, but we can train it to start noticing what's going right, too...

That small shift can change how we experience our days... and over time, even how we experience our lives.

I dive deeper into this in my latest biweekly newsletter.

If you'd like to read the full article and receive future mindset tips every other week....you can sign up using the link in the comments. I'd love to have you join us.

We’re always getting “ready”...
Ready to..
𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘺.
𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱.
𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.
𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢.

At first, I thought it was about confidence,
But now I don't think that's the case.

Because I've watched incredibly capable women spend years preparing for opportunities they were ALREADY qualified for.

I've done it too.

Things like..
𝘐'𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘴.
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘳.
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦.
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯.

But ready has a way of moving…

You reach one milestone.
Suddenly you need another.
Then another.
And another.

I've started to wonder if some of us aren't really waiting to be ready...

I think we're waiting to
stop being afraid.

I don't think those two things are the same.

Maybe ready isn't a feeling after all…
maybe it's a decision.

𝘔𝘢𝘺𝘣𝘦 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘴.
𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵.
𝘛𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘩𝘴.

So, this week, I'm paying attention to the word "ready."

Because I'm starting to think
some of the best things in life
happen when we decide we're ready enough.