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Mother Uses 10 Children’s Books To “Redeem” Young Son Psychologists everywhere have noticed an uptick in children experiencing anxiety, stress, confusion, and other issues that have come as a result of 2020. We should note that these are completely normal things for children to experience, but what is the best way to work through these feelings? Many p...

What a testimony about her parents relationship! From Real Simple Magazine

Even if it’s just a silly thing, like taking out the trash together every Monday night, they always carve out time to connect. My parents have been married for 36 years because they are masters of the Minidate.

He knows what he’s talking about!

"'96% of the time, you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on the first three minutes of the interaction.' - Dr. John Gottman

This statistic is the reason why it’s so important to use a softened start-up when bringing things up with a partner(s). What does that sound like? Here are some examples:

Instead of ➡️ “You never listen to me.”
Softer ➡️ “I’m not feeling heard.”

Instead of ➡️ “You’re always working, we never spend any time together.”
Softer ➡️ “I would really like to spend more time with you.”

Instead of ➡️ “We never have s*x anymore.”
Softer ➡️ “I miss having s*x with you.”

Something else that’s important is the timing of bringing things up. If one or both (or more) of you are in survival mode (i.e. fight/flight/freeze or what the Gottmans call flooded), it may help to take a pause for self-soothing before bringing up your needs or concerns."

Softening the start-up of your arguments and complaints is crucial to resolving relationship conflicts. Read how to soften your start-up: http://bit.ly/2Mda8qX

Words and graphic by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy

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