Spring Tide Therapy

A lil something to remember!

The goal is to help each other grow toward secure attachment, not to accommodate and reinforce insecure attachment. Some of this comes from self-work, and some of it comes from partners working together such as what this cartoon illustrates.
This post provides an example of co-regulation….when partners interact in a way that is calming to each other’s nervous systems. Co-regulation is 20 times more effective than self-regulation and co-regulation is ultimately what creates secure attachment. Of course for co-regulation to be possible, self-regulation is also necessary…it’s not an “either/or” but a “both/and.”

As a couples therapist who specializes in healing anxious-avoidant partnerships, I’ve written a book to parallel the work I do with couples. The book is Secure Love by Julie Menanno, LMFT, LCPC. Check it out if attachment theory resonates with you, but you’re needing to know HOW to do the work from someone who is extensively trained to help couples (and trust me when I say the training part matters). ❤️