Sheva Rajaee, MFT

Happy Sunday. I hate toxic positivity.

Anytime we decide an emotion, thought, or feeling is bad or unacceptable, we empower it. We send the message to our brains that this experience is threatening, and thus we will feel it more rather than less.
Releasing and allowing when we feel pain, discomfort or any unwanted experience is so very counter to our nature, our instinct is to run and fight! But if you run from your feelings, judge them or try not to experience them, they will have power over you.
Allowing a thought or feeling to exist does not mean we agree with it, it only means that we recognize the futility of resisting that which we cannot control. Your brain will tell you dropping your weapons and accepting discomfort is dangerous, it will tell your this is a slippery slope into complacency- this is a lie.
Allow the pain, allow the thoughts, allow the feelings. Release judgement and watch yourself regain power not because of the absence of discomfort, but because you grew so tolerant you ceased to be bothered by its presence🙏🏽