Kelly Zander Therapy

As humans, we experience and interpret the world around us based off of our own lived experiences.

No matter how hard you try, no matter which ways you shape-shift, people will experience you the way their life has wired them to.

I encourage you to find your own moral compass, honor your own values and expectations, access your own joy, validate your own pain, and live in this body for yourself.

You are worthy of goodness and safety, you don’t have to earn it.

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What if you feel flawed because you’re trying to be someone you’re not meant to be?

What if you feel flawed because you’re rejecting parts of your story that matter to your existence?

What if you feel flawed because you’re rejecting the very things that make you, you?

What if you feel flawed because you’re always chasing the “better” or “healed” version of yourself?

How often do you get to exist as yourself in the truest form?
…is it often enough?

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To my, “I got it” - “I can do it” - “I don’t need help” - “let me help you” - “what can I do for you” - “let me do it for you” -

my Caretakers of emotions and sometimes more.

It’s often a role that was established as a child within the family system.

There will always be people that need you, but them needing you isn’t supposed to overlook you needing yourself and accepting support from others.

When constantly living in this state, it becomes a form of validation.
“As long as you need me to support you, I have purpose, I matter to you, you love me.”

I’m here to softly remind you that you are supposed to need people too.
People are also supposed to care for you…this also requires you to let them.

…letting them care for you sometimes has to be a learned experience in adulthood.

Abandoning yourself and your needs to put the fires out around you doesn’t make you more lovable or worthy of a healthy love.

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Some of life’s sweeter moments recently 🩵