Empty Out by Emily Kelly

How to stop shrinking yourself:

*it’s something I’m actively working on as I catch myself doing so more often than I’d like to admit. I’ve been keeping a running list of ways so I thought I’d share:)

Give yourself permission to celebrate your wins. You can be humble and proud simultaneously.

Stop turning the music down and suddenly not singing when you pull up to a red light and there’s a car next to you- unless you see a sleeping baby lol:)

Wear what makes you feel like you. If that means a dress on a day you have nothing “dress worthy” going on- so be it.

Ask yourself: why am I subduing myself? Downplaying my happiness or accomplishments? Is it to make others more comfy? Fear of abandonment? Fear of judgment? All valid- but it helps to know what’s at the bottom of it all.

Learn what is energetically yours vs what is others.

Follow through with responsibilities. It builds self trust, which breeds self confidence. Without the two it’s very hard to feel safe being seen in our entirety.

Surround yourself w others who love your full expression.

Be big. There’s so much inside that the world is waiting to see💛

Anything to add?

You know that old cliche: “Feel the fear and do it anyway”?

I’ve started to notice there’s a missing link.

I was in conversation with someone I consider a mentor- talking through an ongoing experience I was naming as fear. She paused and replied with this:

“Sometimes fear is fear. And sometimes fear is wisdom.”

We have to develop the discernment to decipher which is which. Sometimes fear is something we need to work through. Sometimes it’s simply asking us to acknowledge it’s protective role in trying to keep us safe and to let it know we’re safe now + we’re ready to move forward into new territory.

But sometimes fear is wisdom…where a part of us knows that something is not
aligned. Where our whole heart or our soul is trying to communicate that this is not it. This is not the way. This is not the time. Something isn’t syncing.

And maybe it’s a bit of both.

So maybe you feel the fear and do it anyway….

Or maybe your fear is wisdom. Your very own guiding light. Only you know that💛