Ivy Ruths, PhD

She may be unrelatable in every single way except one: talks about the ups and downs of co-parenting with on - biggest take away: “I will always take the high road when it comes to my kids.”

I know how much a gallon of milk costs and although Kim K and most single parents have *very* different lives, the emotional work is the same.

Read my newest essay, What Kim Kardashian Gets Right About Co-Parenting, about the psychology of co-parenting when things aren’t easy. Up on Substack now - link in bio.

San Diego has always been my marker for change.
Twenty-four, thirty, thirty-six, forty - each visit a different version of me, standing in the same golden light.

My new Substack essay, Gratitude is Gold, is the story of moving from heartbreak to hope and finally home - all through the power of gratitude.

Find it at ivyruthsrios.substack.com or DM for the direct link.


ThroughGratitude

I didn’t realize I was a perfectionist while I was in it.
I just thought I was hardworking. Driven. Responsible.
But underneath it all was the fear of falling short.

It wasn’t until my marriage ended while I had a toddler and was in graduate school that I started to see it clearly. I began to notice how much of my worth had been tied to performance, achievement, and getting it right.

My new Substack post, The Problem with Perfect, is about learning to let go of the illusion of control, quieting the “not enough” voice, and finding peace in good enough.

Read it here: ivyruthsrios.substack.com
(link in profile or DM me for the link)