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** Edited: This post seems to be causing some mixed opinions. It wasn’t created to shame or make parents feel guilty. It’s a personal post surrounding my reflection over my mental health and our daughter who has Cystic Fibrosis. I’m a medical parent who faces a lot of challenges and our page is about creating CF awareness and my parenting journey. If you don’t have anything kind to say, don’t say a thing. 

Note: There are so many factors to behaviour, not just needing connection, being a toddler also plays a huge part. BUT this behaviour is unusual for our daughter. 

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Recently, our daughter has been seeking more attention, and it took a bit of reflection on my part to realise why.

I haven’t been giving her what she needs most - deep connection; due to my own anxieties and worries surrounding her Cystic Fibrosis, the rehoming of our puppy, and her dad being offshore for 4 months. 

Children are incredibly observant and can pick up on the underlying emotions of adults, even if they don’t voice them yet. When I start noticing the signs, I stop and reflect to ‘why’ her behaviour has changed. For me the best place to start is build connection.

⭐️ If she’s whining and screeching at me, I’ll say something like, “I know you have beautiful words, and I’d love to hear them instead of your screeching voice. Can I give you a cuddle to reset?” This helps her understand the concept of self-control - that whining or screeching won’t get her heard, but a confident voice will. It also fills up both of our buckets with some love. 

⭐️ I will then carve out time throughout the day to be solely present with her - no phone, no noise, just me and her. Fill each others bucket with what’s needed. 

Parenting is without doubt one of the most rewarding and challenging responsibilities. It’s a long journey that requires, determination, courage and patience. 

“Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, every movement, and action affects. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than a parent.” – Bob Keeshan 07/25/2023

The way our caretaker responds to our needs set the foundation for all of our relationships…read the caption for more context…

** Edited: This post seems to be causing some mixed opinions. It wasn’t created to shame or make parents feel guilty. It’s a personal post surrounding my reflection over my mental health and our daughter who has Cystic Fibrosis. I’m a medical parent who faces a lot of challenges and our page is about creating CF awareness and my parenting journey. If you don’t have anything kind to say, don’t say a thing. Note: There are so many factors to behaviour, not just needing connection, being a toddler also plays a huge part. BUT this behaviour is unusual for our daughter. ——- Recently, our daughter has been seeking more attention, and it took a bit of reflection on my part to realise why. I haven’t been giving her what she needs most - deep connection; due to my own anxieties and worries surrounding her Cystic Fibrosis, the rehoming of our puppy, and her dad being offshore for 4 months. Children are incredibly observant and can pick up on the underlying emotions of adults, even if they don’t voice them yet. When I start noticing the signs, I stop and reflect to ‘why’ her behaviour has changed. For me the best place to start is build connection. ⭐️ If she’s whining and screeching at me, I’ll say something like, “I know you have beautiful words, and I’d love to hear them instead of your screeching voice. Can I give you a cuddle to reset?” This helps her understand the concept of self-control - that whining or screeching won’t get her heard, but a confident voice will. It also fills up both of our buckets with some love. ⭐️ I will then carve out time throughout the day to be solely present with her - no phone, no noise, just me and her. Fill each others bucket with what’s needed. Parenting is without doubt one of the most rewarding and challenging responsibilities. It’s a long journey that requires, determination, courage and patience. “Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, every movement, and action affects. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than a parent.” – Bob Keeshan

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