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AITA for not wanting to be a guardian for a disabled family member?

Long story short: when I was 10 my grandparents adopted three girls from an impoverished country and brought them to the states. My parents felt a bit slighted, because they then chose to ignore anything my siblings and I did, and never took an active interest in lives, but that is moot point.

Fast forward to now, I'm 31, wife is 32. We have decided to not have children of our. My grandfather is approaching 80 years old and the discussions has come up as who is going to take guardianship of the two girls who have disabilities that require full time caretaking. First and foremost my uncle and my father are the first in line, but as they age the responsibility falls to my siblings and I. In these discussions I have been extremely adamant that I do not want to be held responsible for an adult with the capacity of a child when I don't want children of my own. This has met some obvious ire from my family, denoting my wife and I as selfish, evil people.

I don't really know the girls my grandparents adopted well, but I harbor no ill will toward them, just don't want to bear the burden of someone else's good intentions. Am I being selfish or is my family setting unreasonable expectations?

AITA for not convincing my daughter to give bone marrow to her brother?

Long story short, my ex wife and I were married for 7 years. We split up because she had mental health issues that led her to repeatedly cheat on me with a coworker. I got full custody of our daughter because my ex wife tried to kidnap her and drive into a ditch whilst i__oxicated. My ex wife has never paid the court mandated child support and I never pursued it because I make a significant amount of money at my job and she is unemployed.

We split 11 years ago and our daughter is now 17. My ex-wife made no attempt to stay in contact, she got with the guy she had been seeing and they had a son together shortly after we divorced.

About 3 months ago my ex wife contacted me to say that my daughter wasn't actually mine, she was the product of the affair with the guy she is now married to and that my daughter needed to donate bone marrow to her "brother". I refused.

She contacted our daughter by showing up at school and when our daughter refused to talk to her(she is unhappy that after all this time her mum only shows up when she wants something), my ex wife escalated to screaming at her about being "ungrateful for being alive".

Our daughter came home very upset and broke down about how upset she was that her mum never reached out to her after the split and how now the only reason she's contacted us is because she needs something. As a result of how upset she was ive gotten legal advice. My ex wife is having a meltdown over FB because I wont "force" our daughter to talk to her or donate bone marrow.

AITA here?

AITA for telling the teachers that my daughter’s b**ly being a foster kid isn’t an excuse to be a b**t?

My (36F) daughter (11F) has a close knit group of 5 best friends with whom she does everything together. At her school students have to sit in the same seat for every single lesson, and my daughter and her best friends all sit together at one table.

There is another little girl in my daughter’s class called Winny. Once, Winny came to sit at my daughter’s table when one of her friends was off sick. That day, Winny constantly knocked my daughter’s books and pens off the table on accident, and borrowed her stationery only to snap one of her rubbers, stain her highlighter with black ink, and was even found with my daughter’s pens in her pocket.

One morning Winny came to school crying non stop. The teacher was very sympathetic and asked if there was anything she could do to help. Winny said she wanted my daughter removed from her seat so she could have it, and the teacher agreed. The only empty seats left were all the way in the back corner of the classroom opposite her friends, and the only students sitting there were a girl who was known to be a delinquent and two older boys who had been held back.

The teacher refused to give my daughter a real explanation for why she had to move seats, instead saying some generic stuff about being kind to those less fortunate. My daughter cried for a week straight. In our country, the school year ends in December, so that’s over 7 months of being isolated from her closest friends. She’s also starting highschool next year and will be attending a private school, while her friends are going to a public school, so this is the last time she can hang out with them everyday.

A few days ago, I was called into school because my daughter had gotten into an argument with Winny. Winny had confided in my daughter’s friends about how she had gone into foster care after her parents overdosed. Winny was always a loner at school and wanted some girls to sit with during this time, and the teacher sympathised with her so she agreed. The only reason my daughter had to move was because there wasn’t enough space for 7 girls and my daughter was simply the one Winny liked the least, and she admitted to lying to the teacher about being uncomfortable around my daughter to get her moved. When my daughter found this out, she told Winny she didn’t understand why she had to pay the price just because Winny’s parents were a bunch of insane criminals who didn’t want her anymore.

I know Winny’s had a hard time, but so has my daughter. Her older brother passed away only months ago. I told the teachers that Winny isn’t the only child going through a tough time and I didn’t understand why my daughter had to be punished for another girl’s struggles as if she wasn’t suffering herself. The teachers wanted me to make my daughter apologise for her remarks, and I said it was their fault for punishing her and forcing her to sit with the problem kids despite doing nothing wrong, and they were downplaying my daughter’s grief and trauma to cater to a brat. AITA?