Growing Kind Minds, LLC

I’ve been thinking a lot about the questions we ask ourselves.

Because the questions we ask determine where our attention goes.
And our attention shapes the life we’re creating.

We’ve been conditioned to ask what?

What did I achieve?
What do I have?
What did I earn?
What do people think of me?
What milestone comes next?

Those questions aren’t inherently bad, they’re just incomplete.

The questions that have changed my life begin with how.

How satisfied do I feel with the life I’m building?
How present am I in the moments that matter?
How am I treating the people I love?
How am I treating myself when things don’t go as planned?
How aligned do I feel with my values?
How am I showing up when no one is watching?

Notice what happens.

The focus shifts from proving... to practicing.
From acquiring... to embodying.
From outcome... to process.
From external validation... to internal congruence.

As therapists, we know that a meaningful life isn’t simply the accumulation of achievements, it’s the experience of living in alignment with who we are.

The “what” will come and go, money will fluctuate, titles will change, goals will evolve.

But how you live...
How you lead...
How you love...
How you show up...

Those are the things that create a life you’re proud to call your own.

Maybe this week, ask yourself fewer questions about what you’re getting and more questions about how you’re living.

With love,

Dr. V xo