Inspired Action Wellness

We live in a world where if you can't see it or touch it, people decide it isn't real.

And I get it. We were all raised to trust science and nothing else.

But here's what got me in this conversation with Beth. The research is there. Hundreds of peer-reviewed studies. The kind that can be replicated. Studies that say, yeah, this energy work actually does something.

And it's still not enough for people.

That's the part that stops me. We ask for proof, and then, when we get it, we move the goalposts. We'd rather call it woo than sit with the possibility that we don't have it all figured out yet.

I'm not asking you to believe anything blindly. I'm asking you to stay curious. What if there's more to healing than the one model we got handed?

🎧 When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough: Energy Work, Tapping, and Healing Trauma with Beth Chisholm
Season 2, Episode 9

Link in bio or at https://fineletstalk.riverside.com

There's this idea floating around that healing means you stop feeling anxious. That if you've done the work, the hard emotions just go away.

That's not it.

My guest Beth said it perfectly. The goal was never to get rid of your emotions. You're supposed to feel anxious before a big test. You're supposed to feel nervous before something that matters. That's your body doing its job.

The problem isn't the anxiety. The problem is when the anxiety gets so big you can't get out of the car.

Your emotions are messages. They're telling you something. The work isn't about silencing them; it's about turning the volume down to where you can actually hear what they're saying.
Any strength taken to the extreme becomes a weakness. Even the ones that are trying to protect you.

🎧 When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough: Energy Work, Tapping, and Healing Trauma with Beth Chisholm
Season 2, Episode 9

Link in bio or at https://fineletstalk.riverside.com

I see so much hate online about nervous system regulation right now. Like, someone says the words "nervous system regulation," and everybody loses it.

And honestly? Roll your eyes and scream all you want. It doesn't change the fact that it works.

Here's the thing people miss: When your body thinks you're in danger, the thinking part of your brain basically goes offline. That's not a flaw, that's how you're built. Your body cares way more about keeping you alive than it cares about your affirmations. When your body is perpetually stuck in this state, you can't THINK your way out.

So when you're trying to journal your way out of it, or reframe it, or do the breathwork you tried that one time, none of it lands. Not because you're doing it wrong. Your brain is too busy trying to protect you to actually use any of it.

That's why the work doesn't stick. You're skipping the part where you tell your body you're safe.

So no, you can't skip it. You regulate first, then everything else has somewhere to go. There's really no way around it.

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"Nobody's posting the part where they tripped over the shoes."

Here's the trap nobody clocks in the moment. When you scroll past someone's page and feel that little drop, you're not comparing your life to their life. You're comparing your whole messy day to the one frame they chose to show you.

Rob McCarthy lays it out perfectly. Nobody's posting the argument about the shoes by the door, the dirty bowl in the sink, the underwear on the bathroom floor. They're posting the highlight reel, the version they want you to see. And then you measure your behind-the-scenes against their best take and come up short every time.

You already know this. It still works on you, because the comparison hits the body before the brain gets a vote.

Full episode out now. Link in bio or at https://fineletstalk.riverside.com

"If you won't admit it's broke, you'll never fix it."

Your self-worth is not the same as what you own. Once that actually lands, the stuff stops having so much power over you.

But Rob McCarthy names the harder part. The toughest conversation you will ever have is the one with yourself, the one where you stop pointing at everyone else and own your part in it. If you won't admit something's broken, you're never going to fix it.

That conversation is uncomfortable on purpose. It's also where the real change starts.
Full episode out now. Link in bio or https://fineletstalk.riverside.com

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Keeping up with the Joneses used to mean one guy down the street bought a new Cadillac. That was it. A small circle, mostly family, maybe a cousin or an uncle.

Now the circle is everyone who owns a phone, and Rob McCarthy makes the point that half of what they're posting isn't even real.

You're not measuring yourself against your neighbor. You're measuring yourself against a feed that's part performance and part fiction, and your nervous system reads the gap as a problem to solve every time.

Full episode out now. Link in bio or https://fineletstalk.riverside.com

"I had to outlive the lie."

Dr. Rita Renee on this week's episode.

When you leave an abusive relationship, the person you left rarely goes quietly. They get to the people first. They tell their version. They spin a story where you're the problem.

And you're sitting there silent because you're trying to survive.

Dr. Rita said it best: Let them talk. Outlive it.

Because your character follows you everywhere you go. If they're doing this to you, they're doing it to other people. Lies have a shelf life. The truth doesn't.

Don't waste your healing on defending yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you.
Just keep living.

Full episode of Fine, I'll Talk About It out now. Link in bio, wherever you get your podcasts, or at https://fineletstalk.riverside.com/

Protect your peace. That's part of your purpose.

If your peace is not where you are, you have to go to where it is.
It may be a shelter. It may be a friend's couch. It may be a family member's floor in another state.

It's okay.

This transition is not the end of your story. It's just the part where you save your own life.
Dr. Rita Renee said this on this week's episode, and it landed.

If you're sitting in a house that looks beautiful from the outside and feels like a prison from the inside, you're allowed to leave. You're allowed to downgrade. You're allowed to start over with nothing.

Peace is worth more than the address.

Full episode of Fine, I'll Talk About It out now. Link in bio, wherever you get your podcasts, or at https://fineletstalk.riverside.com/

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