Lighten the Mother Load

What do you need in order to do this mom thing well everyday?

For me, I need to shower every day, sometimes twice. Something about a shower just makes me feel more human. More like Rebeccah. And I’m not going to lie I love that I’m in an enclosed space where no one can touch me for 10 minutes 😂

It’s important for all of us to find the one activity we can do if even for 5 minutes everyday to keep our sanity, our peace, our humanness so we can live to fight another day.

What is that for you? Tell me in the comments.

6 years married to my forever love.

The relationship with your spouse or partner is one of the most complex and interesting relationships I believe a person will have in their life. Most love that you have in your life is automatic- your parents, siblings, your children.

But your spouse- you chose that love and it wasn’t engrained in you. Which makes it that much more special and also that much more effort to maintain. When people told me marriage takes work I never quite understood but 6 years, and 3 kids later I get it.

It’s work to love someone through their hard and ugly and mean and struggle. It’s work to heal your own trauma and scars and ugly so that you can be an effective partner. It’s work to stay connected romantically when you’re exhausted from children. It’s work to just love someone else some days.

But like any work that is meaningful, loving the person you chose is incredibly rewarding and fills your soul and heart up in a way only satisfying work can. And it’s worth the effort every time.

How long have you been with your partner? What have you learned along the way?

Tuesday reminder. We all have agreements in our brains of who we are and what we’re supposed to be that we have mostly accepted unconsciously and ingrained them into our being.

Agreements that stop us from trying new things, getting healthy, feeling confident, speaking our truth, living our joy.

Agreements that we can’t, aren’t enough, are too fat, too small, too dumb, too lazy, too shy, too busy.

But the really cool thing about those agreements is that they’re not carved in stone and we can break them and create new ones. Agreements that satisfy our truest selves and embody who we want to be rather than who we’ve been told to be.

Break those limited beliefs and as Rose would tell you, tell them to to kick rocks with an open toed sandal.