Nadyne Busichio,LPC

According to Dr. John Gottman, when resentment builds up, we begin to view our partner in a negative light.

When we continuously argue with our partner, struggle and don’t see eye to eye we may begin to find ourselves viewing our partner more negatively.

According to Robert Weiss, “Negative Sentiment Override is the result of conflict and arguments distorting our view of our partners wherein we perceive any interaction regardless of its intention as negative.”

This could lead us to easily criticize our partner, bring up issues from the past, not give them the benefit of the doubt or get irritated and annoyed by things they say.

Even when times are good, if we have this negative perspective, we could still view the relationship poorly.

The good news is it doesn’t have to stay this way!

Do you and your spouse need help reconnecting? Couples counseling can help any couple struggling to see eye to eye and assist you in creating a strong foundation. If your ready to learn relationship tools that will help you communicate more effectively, schedule a session today!

Raise your hand if you are ever stressed out?🙋‍♀️

Stress effects our lives in so many ways. Some minor such as being stuck in traffic to bigger things like demands at work, family difficulties, financial problems, traumatic events, divorce, or illness.

Taking time for self-care is essential to dealing with stress in a healthy manner, and to also help prevent burnout.

It’s so easy to put ourselves last of a seemingly endless to-do list, however, I encourage you to take time to put you first.

Self-care is your obligation “treating yourself”; you’re investing in yourself and your physical and mental health so you can better care for those around you.

How are you taking care of yourself today? ❤ Let me know in the comments 👇

Listen up, if you’re in a relationship and you’re not arguing, then according to Dr. John Gottman, you’re not communicating.

We all know those couples who always seem to have it together and never seem to argue, and maybe sometimes they do. But if they have gotten in the habit of staying silent and not communicating when they are hurt, angry, disappointed etc.; this silence could slowly destroy the relationship.

Although it may seem scary, when we face conflict in our relationships in a healthy way and respect our partners boundaries, we have an opportunity to grow within the relationship, deepen the connection and strengthen the bond.

Arguments are going to happen, and that’s not a bad thing.

So, speak up and keep talking.

How do you feel about conflict? Comment below!

May I make a confession?

I recently took on some additional volunteer hours at my kids’ school and it’s proving a bigger challenge than I might have bargained for.

It’s a lot to handle sometimes, but deep inside, I know it will be worth it.

To avoid burnout, I give myself permission to pause… whether for a day, a weekend, or just a single breath.

If you need permission, too, here it is. You got this, friend!

How will you pause today?