Relationship Vision - Daniel A Linder MFT

Continuing focus on game-changing principles that will turn dating into a training ground, providing endless opportunities to practice and hone essential skills, make dating more enjoyable and fun, and one to learn and grow in the process regardless the outcome of any one date.

Most people take dating for granted, blindly hoping to meet the one, are passive and on automatic. They don’t understand that it’s “show time” the moment of their very first contact.

That relationships begin the first time you meet someone. That the initial encounter replicates
like a DNA molecule in subsequent encounters. In other words, honesty begets honesty and dishonesty begets dishonesty, good rapport breeds good rapport.

That you are both, in a relationship and creating one from the start. You’re also in the process of building a foundation for the developing relationship if one happens to develop.

Upcoming, the next principle I’ll be presenting is “What is a date, really?” because surprisingly, most people don’t have a clue!

If you’re considering relationship therapy or are interested in working with me, you can contact me at my email address: [email protected]. Until then, be well.

Why So Many People Struggle to Connect

Over decades working with people in recovery and countless others desperate to connect, but keep striking out, don’t know why they’re striking out, and getting so frustrated, they’re on the verge of giving up altogether. And I’m seeing so many people using dating apps searching for love getting burned out on the whole dating scene.
I think I know why so many people are struggling to connect. The surprising truth is that most people simply don’t know how to connect the first time they meet someone.
They go out looking to make something happen, wishing for their lucky day, to meet the one
and live happily after., but have no idea that relationships don’t just happen, they are co-created and there are requisite conditions that make that possible.
And once you understand a few basic principles, everything changes. Dating can become a training ground for connection instead of a series of confusing disappointments. It can also be much more enjoyable and fun and can become a life changing experience.
In my next post, I’m going to talk about the first principle most people completely miss: Relationships begin the very first moment you meet someone.
If you’re considering relationship therapy or are interested in working with me, you can contact me at my [email protected] address. Until then. Be well.

The Mystique of Beauty
The mystique of beauty stems from social conditioning that makes us elevate people based solely on their outward appearance — whether they’re deemed to be beautiful, wealthy, successful, powerful or talented, while ignoring their true character or what might be lying beneath the surface.

We’re conditioned to mistake beauty for virtue, substance or depth when there isn’t anything inherently virtuous about beauty, and there is no correlation between beauty and the kind of person they are or what it's like to be in a relationship with them.

I’ve fallen into the trap of exalting other people without knowing anything about them, just because they were dazzling sights to behold. And I’ve also crashed many times when I couldn’t square their beauty with how little resonance there was when I was with them.
Reflect on how you respond internally when called beautiful, and when you’re with someone you see as beautiful. What assumptions do you make?
If you’re considering pursuing relationship therapy or are interested in working with me, you can contact me at my RelationshipVision.com website. Until then, take care!