Coming Into Focus Podcast

💜 Curious to know what attachment style you might trend towards? 💜

I truly believe that we should be taught this information as early in life as possible. Unfortunately, we are not, and a lot of this info that could be extremely helpful in navigating all of our relationships isn’t figured out until we’re pretty deep into these patterns/strategies.

In the video I share a quick question that I ask at the start of working with any new couple. This one question is often all I need to ask in order to get a good feel for what attachment “strategy” someone tends to lean towards.

I like to refer to these more as strategies , rather than “styles.” Because, at the end of the day, that’s essentially what they are - just strategies we’ve learned to attempt emotional regulation in the face of relational conflict, as well as something we hope maintains the connection.

Sadly, when we lean more toward the insecure side of attachment, the strategies often backfire and get us stuck in cycles of distress that eventually end up eroding the relationship.

In a coming post, I’m going to discuss these what these strategies look like a little more in depth, as well as break down the cycle of distress and even share a cool little diagram that gives a detailed look at said cycle.

💜 If you want to share any insights this provided, please do so in the comments. And, if you don’t feel comfortable sharing, I’d still love to hear if you’re enjoying the content and would like more of it! Thank you!! 💜

I made a post about this earlier this morning, but I figured I would also add this video to explain things in a more succinct way.

If you would like something that’s a little more tangible, and something that you can go back and reference, please go check out my last post and save it so you know where to find it later.

I’m going to be explaining what this all means for our adult romantic relationships as the week progresses. So, make sure that you turn notifications on or go and interact with several of my posts so that the algorithm knows you want to see this stuff and Instagram will keep bringing my posts up in your feed.

If you find this info helpful, please let me know in the comments let me know if you have any questions that I can answer.

❤️This is solely for educational purposes, and this does not constitute a therapeutic relationship.❤️

Sorry about the 🏍️!

Starting this Sunday I will be picking a theme each week to make some educational posts about 📚

Please drop a comment or DM me directly if you prefer, and let me know something you’d like to explore together! 📽️

About the group I posted yesterday in my stories… this is a mindfulness group not a photography group. Photography is the tool for teaching mindfulness. So that’s why I was saying you don’t need a camera, you just need your phone. 🚨Check my stories for the poll I put up about this 🚨