EarthSide Birth Services

🌸Rachael

Most of my second time clients express a fear that they will not be able to love their coming child like the first. I smile knowingly despite not having two children EarthSide because I KNOW. I know what that fear is like. Your first child changed your entire world, they made your heart and life expand in ways you never thought or dreamed possible, and then they filled that expansion with every fiber of their being.

How could the second child possibly fit in the crevices that are left? My advice is always the same. Instead of your heart trying to fit two children into the space it has it always doubles in size (figuratively of course). It knows what we don’t quite fit together- that your next baby gets a heart and place all on its own. So, yes mamma, rest easy. There will be so much love for that baby that you’ll find yourself at a loss with how to feel it all at once, just like your first.

Ever wonder what the baby is doing during pushing. Here is a nice graphic depicting their journey through the pelvis. From “New Pregnancy and Birth Book” by Dr. Miriam Stoppard

We all remember a few months ago when Harry and Meghan introduced baby Archie to the world only two days post-partum. One of the only five questions asked to the couple at the time was: “is he sleeping ok? Good baby?”.⁣
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Today, in a contrast to the first interview, a short extract of a documentary by shows Meghan, the new mum and wife, in a completely vulnerable state, like so many of us are after childbirth.⁣
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The question this time was about Meghan’s physical and mental health, rather than the baby’s sleeping habits. This is the one question you SHOULD ask a new mum, but as Meghan herself confirmed, it rarely gets asked.⁣
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“Are YOU ok?”⁣
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“Is there anything I can do for YOU?”⁣
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People often get obsessed about the baby and forget about the mum, the dad.⁣
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The first question is the reason why our society believes:
good babies sleep, bad babies don’t,
good babies comply, bad babies throw tantrums,
good babies smile, bad babies cry,
good babies allow life to carry on as normal, bad babies disrupt your life and turn everything upside-down.
This poor language must change, babies are babies, they are not good or bad.⁣
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Today’s interview with .bradby gives us hope that when the right question is asked, mothers will receive the support they deserve to cope with the struggles of motherhood and continue to care for their babies without the pressures of feeling validated by how well they sleep.