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This week we have seen the worst of humanity AND the best of it. In therapy, we use a method called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT. DBT is a synthesis or integration of opposites.

Over the past several days, I have sat with and held space for the fear, heartache, and violence that one individual caused in my community. I have also witnessed the very BEST of humanity emerge!

I have seen neighbors check in neighbors and strangers providing comfort to strangers. The response of the first responders, the helpers, the community at large, and, of course, the STUDENTS and administration have brought me to tears more than once this week.

I have watched us decide as a community to rise from the ashes and stand Spartan Strong.

The path back is only just beginning; the work will no doubt be long and painful, AND we will do it together with love. I am proud to be a Spartan and part of the East Lansing Community. You can not burn us because we are made of fire!

As part of the East Lansing and MSU communities, I am deeply saddened by last night's events. I want to first express my deepest sympathy for the trauma our community experienced last night. I am also very grateful to report that my son and I are safe and physically unharmed.

As a child therapist, I understand the profound impact this can have on children and adults, and my heart goes out to everyone affected by this tragedy.

It is normal for children to experience a range of emotions, such as fear, sadness, confusion, and anger, in the aftermath of such an event.

As parents, creating a safe and supportive environment for your children to process their feelings and cope with the trauma that occurred last night is important. Your response will depend on a variety of factors, including your child's age, your proximity to the event, and your amount of connection to MSU.

Here are some general tips that might help:

* Limit your child's exposure to media coverage of the event, as it can exacerbate anxiety and trauma. The amount of information you provide will depend on their age and your immediate connection to the events at MSU.

* Let your child know they are safe and the immediate danger is over. Tell them that the helpers did everything they were supposed to do and are all continuing to take steps to keep us safe.

* Prepare your child to return to school by helping them prepare a response to rumors and discussions that may occur with their peers. If you have specific concerns for your child's well-being, please let your child's teacher and the social worker at your child's school know.

* Encourage your child to talk about their feelings and experiences, but do not force them to do so. You can provide comfort and support by listening without judgment and validating their emotions.

* If your child seems 'stuck' or is ruminating about the event, consider doing an AGE APPROPRIATE activity to help them regain control and feel useful.

* Consider making or buying cookies or cards to send to the police or first responders.

* Checking on neighbors to see if they are ok

* Make a card and MAIL it to the local hospital staff.

* Connect with family and/or friends and let them know you love and appreciate them.

* Maintain regular routines as much as possible to provide a sense of stability and predictability for your child.

* Monitor your child's behavior for signs of distress, such as changes in sleep patterns, eating habits, or mood.

* Take care of your mental health and well-being, as your emotional state can affect your child.

Remember that every child is unique and may respond differently to the event. Be patient and understanding with your child, and seek professional support if needed. With time, care, and support, your child can work through their feelings and begin to heal.

We are here to support you and your family during this difficult time.

Love to you all

Liz