Adult ADHD AUDHD Help

I'm saying this part out loud...

There comes a time when we need to stop with the daily grind of self-help (not self care) and accept ourselves, warts and all.

Especially if you are neurodivergent.

Many of us have tried forever to mold ourselves into some unrealistic version of another self.

It won't work...stop it.

Work on self-acceptance and self-compassion.

If you have trauma, find a therapist who can guide you through recovery. Self-help won't get you there. You are wasting your life trying to fix something so delicate.

If badgering ourselves to change hasn't worked by now, putting a new name on the same objective of being 'other' still won't work.

Here's what an international trauma researcher and teacher says:

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, the author of “The Body Keeps the Score,” spent 50 years at Harvard Medical School studying trauma.

His conclusion after five decades of research?

"Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health."

"As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself… The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know."

Not productivity hacks.

Not positive affirmations.

Safety.

The ability to feel safe with yourself.

With other people. In your own skin. And most of us DON'T feel completely safe.

Not really.

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Physical/Somatic Symptoms of ADHD...not news, really

I suffer from a lot of physical symptoms restless especially at night but I figet a lot Inability to stay seated, constant pacing, or feeling "edgy".
Fidgeting: Tapping hands or feet, twirling hair, playing with objects, physical symptoms adhd

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Physical symptoms of ADHD include persistent restlessness, fidgeting (tapping hands/feet, squirming), difficulty sitting still, and high energy levels described as being "driven by a motor". Other physical manifestations involve excessive talking, interrupting others, and sensory sensitivities like aversion to bright lights or certain textures.
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Common Physical Symptoms and Behaviors:
Restlessness: Inability to stay seated, constant pacing, or feeling "edgy".
Fidgeting: Tapping hands or feet, twirling hair, playing with objects, or picking at skin.
Hyperactivity: Often manifesting as constant movement, or in adults, a mental "racing" that feels like high energy.
Impulsivity: Acting quickly without thinking, such as grabbing things or interrupting.
Sensory Sensitivity: Overwhelmed by, or hypersensitive to, loud noises, bright lights, or textures (e.g., clothing tags).
Sleep Disturbances: Difficulty relaxing, winding down, or experiencing Restless Leg Syndrome.

But this also signs for my Austim aswell

Loud noises and being in a crowded places sets me off and when more then one person talks at a time sets my brain off and always struggle to shut off before going bed