Mbole Ekaney

MY THOUGHTS ON THE QUESTION: Is failure a sign to stop or a lesson to improve?

For me, failure becomes dangerous only when somebody refuses to learn from it.

Many people fail once and immediately conclude that life is against them. Meanwhile, failure itself is not the real enemy. The real danger begins when a person repeats the same mistake without growth, wisdom, or correction.

A student can fail an exam and later become one of the best in the class because he studied his weak points.

A business person can lose money in one venture and later build a successful business because the first loss taught him what not to do.

Even in relationships, some people go through heartbreak and come out wiser, calmer, and more mature.

But there are also people who fail and learn nothing. They blame everybody, repeat the same habits, ignore advice, and continue making emotional decisions. That is when failure starts destroying confidence, opportunities, and future progress.

Life teaches through both success and mistakes. Sometimes the lesson even hides inside embarrassment, rejection, or disappointment. What matters is whether the person is willing to sit down, reflect, and improve.

Failure is painful, yes. But a failure that teaches you something valuable can still become part of your success story.

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I respect people who pay back borrowed money without reminder.

Rare species. Very close to extinction.

MY THOUGHTS ON THE QUESTION: Should people chase passion or chase opportunities first?

For me, people should not treat passion and opportunity like enemies.

Sometimes life does not give you the luxury to begin with passion. You may love writing, but there are no writing jobs around you. You may want to be a designer, but what is available is customer service work or sales. In that moment, opportunity becomes the door you walk through, even if it is not your dream room.

I have seen people take jobs just to survive, then slowly discover something meaningful inside it. A young man may start in sales because that is what is available, but along the way he learns communication, discipline, and confidence. Later, those same skills become the foundation of his real passion.

Opportunity keeps you alive. It gives you income, structure, and exposure. Passion often grows in that space when you are patient enough to observe what you are good at and what feels natural over time.

But it is also true that opportunity without reflection can keep someone stuck for years. That is why the goal is not to abandon passion, but to let opportunity support your journey until passion becomes clearer and stronger.

In real life, most people do not start where they want to end. They start where they can, and grow into where they are meant to be.

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MY THOUGHTS ON THE QUESTION: Which destroys people faster: laziness or excuses?

For me, excuses destroy people faster than laziness.

A lazy person may still know they are wasting time. Deep down, they are aware that they need to wake up and do better. But excuses are more dangerous because they make people feel comfortable with staying where they are.

Excuses always sound reasonable.

“I wanted to start a business, but nobody supported me.”

“I wanted to go back to school, but the economy is hard.”

“I wanted to learn a skill, but I do not have the right phone.”

With time, these excuses begin to sound like truth in the person’s mind. Years pass, yet nothing changes.

Many people are not failing because they lack talent. They are failing because they have mastered the art of explaining why they cannot move forward.

The painful part is that excuses can hide inside very convincing stories. Some people blame their background. Others blame family, friends, government, witches, village people, heartbreak, or bad luck for everything happening in their lives.

Meanwhile, another person with the same struggles is quietly working, learning, growing, and changing their life step by step.

No life moves forward perfectly. There will always be problems. But if a person keeps waiting for life to become easy before they act, they may remain in the same place for years.

Excuses slowly destroy confidence, discipline, opportunities, and even dreams. That is why, for me, excuses destroy people faster than laziness.

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