Lavender Muldar

people say ‘don’t make autism your whole personality’ but autism isn’t a personality trait. it’s a neurotype that shapes how i experience the world, from communication to sensory input to social interaction.

let’s rethink the way we talk about autism. share below if you relate or if you’ve learned something new! 🌷

sharing a bit about my process of getting diagnosed with ADHD! 🧠

it was honestly in some ways more difficult to obtain an adhd assessment than my autism assessment! i wish i knew about other options like .official sooner because i definitely would have used them 🥲

they have a 1-minute symptoms test on their website to discover if you could benefit from support (link is in my bio!!)

stasis has genuinely improved my experience with taking adhd meds!

how nearly all of my conversations go with my ND friends 😀
each discussing our own topics.. but i wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂‍↔️

as a late-diagnosed autistic person, over-explaining became second nature. it was my attempt to prevent misunderstandings, manage perceptions, and stay “in control.” 🫠

but the reality of it is it just burned me out!
i can’t control how people interpret me, and constantly trying doesn’t make me safer, it just makes me tired.

letting go of that urge has given me back so much mental energy. not everyone will understand me, and that’s okay 🫶

do you ever feel the urge to over explain?

seeing photos of my younger self hits differently now.

i see a girl who grew up undiagnosed autistic, navigating a world that didn’t understand her. the consequences of growing up undiagnosed are real—low self-esteem, masking, burnout, and constantly feeling different without knowing why.

i wish i could go back and tell her it wasn’t her fault. she was always enough! 🤍

when i actually try to make a joke it’s crickets but i have everyone giggling when im not even trying 😩 is it just me?

he chair of my dreams!

the E3 ultra ergonomic office chair has made working at my desk so much more comfortable. i highly recommend for anyone who experiences pain from sitting for long periods of time.

you can use my code mykayla5 to get 5% off at website (linked in bio) or on amazon with MYKAYLA5 🤍

and then even worse is having people not believe the words you say because direct communication is a lost art 😔😔

sensory-friendly summer fits only ☀️
soft fabrics, flowy layers, and zero tags 🙂‍↕️

one of the ways i’ve unmasked most in the last few years is with my clothing/style. i will NOT! wear anything that is uncomfortable because physical discomfort affects my ability to self regulate so much.

what are your fav things to wear in the summer??

ad | my ins & outs for 2026! i’m leaving guessing when it comes to my menstrual cycle behind. here’s to an amazing year ahead!

and then even worse is having people not believe the words you say because direct communication is a lost art 😔😔