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Pain Needs a Villain: Why We Blame When We Hurt

When life falls apart, our minds ask the same questions almost automatically.

Whose fault is this?
Why did this happen?
Who failed me?

Whether we’re grieving a loss, navigating betrayal, processing trauma, or simply overwhelmed by the chaos of everyday life, the human brain desperately wants an explanation. It wants certainty. It wants order.

Most of the time, that search for certainty leads us to a villain.

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