Marriage-Tips

When you had just met them, they were so nice and soft with their words. They were so loving and caring. They could call and text you every time. They could have time for you no matter how busy they were with their career, studies, and hobbies. They seemed to be so exceptional. You trusted them and you gave them your heart and body. You told your friends and family about them. You planned your future with them thinking they are to stay with you forever.

Now that they got what they wanted from you, they no longer care and show you love. They no longer have your time, they are pretending to be so busy to the extent that they can’t fix time for you like before, they are full of excuses all the time, they aren’t available for you, and they completely ignore you. You are now puzzled, stressed, and worried. You have many questions running in your minds. You don’t know your position in their heart; you don’t know what they are up to, you don’t know if they still love you or they moved on and you always have sleepless nights.

Why? Why not considering all those red flags? Why not trusting your inner intuition? Why not understanding and accepting the fact that they no longer love you yet everything they do clearly shows it?

You need to take a step and make a final decision because you are wasting your time on someone who no longer loves you. You need to stop stressing yourself over someone who indirectly dumped you. You need to gather the courage and end such unhealthy relationship soon because you are not worth it. You deserve to be loved and to be happy not to cry and to plead for someone's love everytime. Think about it.

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today. If you
go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers
and grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were
more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had
values and were prepared to build a home and not
park into a built home. Then, once a young man
comes of age and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what
we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average
girl to
define her dream husband; you get things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, educated, fair, and rich,
own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then,
check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you
will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning,
you have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns
around, then comes suffering? Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When
50 girls want the same kind of man and the man
that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the
man can
only
pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the
face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things
these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in
Internet fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands.(This is why
they always fall for
the wrong ones who would use and dump them.
Then they later carry the "all men are the same
saying".) If you look around, majority of the
ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change
your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw
that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose
for making him, without a help mate and then
made the woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission
of building the family of God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bo***ge. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A
MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be a route to where God has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT
HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all
men are husband materials. What I am saying is
that you should stop setting your standard on
material acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN
WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that
which he
is made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
Prince Bobade Adeola

If someone really loves and cares about you they would make an extra effort to be there for you no matter how busy or distant they are. They would keep in touch with you in any possible way, they would show how proud they are of you, and they would spare some time for you not only when it’s convenient for them. So, be wise. Don’t be fooled by the plain I love you(s) and miss you(s). There should be some effort to give them meaning. Remember we have no time to waste babysitting grown up adults. Save your heart and your time from wrong people and relationships which aren’t building you up but instead draining your energy.