Challenger Point Practice

This is an excellent resource for kind hearted people that are taken advantage of by emotional predators.

“A goal of this book is to recognize the unprocessed memories that may be running us so that we can be more aware of what is getting triggered and when.”

— Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy by Francine Shapiro
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I recommend this book for anyone considering or actively engaged in trauma processing therapy. It is written from a client perspective and provides a great supplement in between therapy sessions.

“Remember, your narcissistic ex is a master at manipulating situations. They’ll use isolation tactics, lash out, make you look like the bad guy, gaslight you in front of family members, or even make you out to be abusive.”

— Co-Parenting Hell: Raising Healthy Kids with a Toxic Narcissist Ex by Janet Bloom
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Learning to navigate a relationship with a narcissist is like learning a foreign language. The more you read about it, practice the communication strategies, and the more experience you have in the way to respond, ignore, and grow, heal, and recover, the more you’ll rise above this kind of toxicity. All the more important if you have children to focus on being the best version of yourself as possible. The narcissist will hate that because you’re out of their control but your living your own life - apart from being controlled and manipulated is exactly what you and your children need you to do.

“A narcissist only wishes to be perceived as the top dog, so when you try to turn things around, he/ she is likely to become hyper-alert and look for ways to return to the alpha position.”

— Narcissist: How To Neutralize A Narcissist: A Complete Guide on How to Become a Narcissist’s Worst Nightmare by Antony Felix

This book is full of helpful explanations, tips, and recommendations to help those dealing with someone who exhibits narcissistic behaviors.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Here are the nine most common signs of BPD:

1. Untrusting
2. Abandonment anxiety
3. Volcanic anger
4. Unhealthy relationships
5. Emptiness
6. Uncertain self-image
7. Harmful behaviors
8. Self-harm
9. Mood swings

The four types of BPD:

1. Impulsive
2. Discouraged
3. Self-destructive
4. Petulant

“BPD is a scary condition to live with, and even scarier to watch. For those of us on the outside looking in, as hard as we try we can’t possibly understand what’s going on underneath.”

— Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Communicate and Support Loved Ones With BPD. Skills to Manage Intense Emotions & Improve Your Relationship (Break ... and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships) by Linda Hill
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“The signs that you may have low self esteem are:

1. People pleasing.
2. Lack of setting and holding boundaries.
3. Harsh self talk.
4. Lack of integrity or unwavering values.
5. Yearning for praise outside yourself.

So what drives the empath or you towards codependency and basing your self-worth on the outside influences of others? The outside event. The outside invitations, and the outside praise? Empaths are conditioned to be codependent and seek self worth outside themselves. But that doesn't mean you cannot be free of this conditioning and rewrite your behaviors. There are three main ways life circumstances govern this toxic survival mechanism.

1. They are not provided freedom of mind and autonomy of self in the crucial formative pubescent years.
2. Childhood bullying by peer, parent, or sibling.
3. Lack of emotional tools provided by the parent / caregiver.”

— Empath & The Narcissist: How to Overcome Narcissistic Abuse, Recover from PTSD, Codependency, and Gaslighting Manipulation. A Guide to Heal Childhood Trauma with Effective Exercises. by Raven Lee Scott
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If you seem to be a magnet to narcissistic and borderline people, you may benefit by asking yourself if you’re an empath - meaning, someone with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual. This is what people with personality disorders like about you and don’t have for themselves. This book delves into astrology which is not something everyone subscribes to but there are some great exercises to practice in the healing journey, to break codependency, and recover from abuse.