Liberation with Shale

I don’t think I fully realized how much my body was still bracing until recently.

After having a baby and nursing for three and a half years, I got used to being woken up every 2 to 3 hours.

And even after that phase ended, something stayed with me.

My body never fully relaxed.

I lived in this quiet, background state of stay alert, stay ready, without even thinking about it.

But over the past few months, that’s been changing.

Four months into neurofeedback, I’m finally sleeping deeply again, 7, sometimes 8 hours straight.

And it’s not just the sleep that’s different.

I feel less vigilant.
Less on edge.
More settled in my body.

And what’s been fascinating is how that’s showing up in small, everyday ways.

Like what I wear.

I’ve always been really sensitive to fabrics. Polyester has always been a hard no for me, it just never felt right on my skin. I’ve mostly worn cotton for years.

But recently, I started wearing more merino wool, and it feels different.

Softer. More breathable. More regulating.

And I realized, it’s not just about the clothing.

It’s about listening to my body instead of overriding it.

For a long time, I thought of my sensitivity as something to manage or push through.

Now I’m starting to see it differently.

What if it’s just information?

What if comfort isn’t indulgent, but actually part of how we regulate?

At this stage of my life, I feel more grounded in who I am, less focused on fixing, more focused on supporting.

And that’s changing everything.

Curious if anyone else has noticed shifts like this, whether through better sleep, nervous system work, or even something as simple as what you wear?

If this resonates and you want to explore it more deeply, I offer neurofeedback assessments where we look at what your nervous system is doing and how to support it.

No pressure, just information.

This has been my very delicious answer to the question, wtf are we gonna do with all these carrots? Trust me, they will be gone by morning.

Here’s the recipe:
Shred the carrots in the fridge with a peeler, at least 6 medium sized ones
Chopped scallions or white onions
1/4 tbsp shredded ginger
2 tbsp sesame oil
2 tbsp rice vinegar
2 tbsp soy sauce or coconut aminos
2 tbsp honey
A generous sprinkle of sesame seeds, toasted is better

Toss and let it sit a few minutes. Serve and enjoy ✨