Relational Balance Therapy

An affair can shake the hurt partner to their core and cause them to doubt everything they believe.

Although not all partners hurt by an affair will develop PTSD-type reactions, many will experience grief and depression. Hurt partners may become obsessed with the affair’s details, feel powerless with their emotions, and need therapeutic assistance to process their difficult emotions. According to Drs. John and Julie Gottman, if the symptoms persist, then the hurt partner may be experiencing PTSD.

After an affair, a couple may experience many confusing and conflicting emotions. It’s hard to know what to do. If you're experiencing grief or PTSD-type feelings related to an affair, a therapist trained in the Gottman Method can help.

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"John Gottman from the Gottman Institute has done extensive research regarding relationships and what makes them happy.

One of the more interesting findings is about the magic ratio. After examining couples and how they dealt with conflict, it seemed that happy couples for who love lasts show five positive interactions for each negative one.

[...]So, let’s say there is a conflict between a couple where one criticizes the other. Then, to resolve this conflict they can try positive interactions, which for example are showing empathy, apologizing, being affectionate, showing appreciation or interest."

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How do you know if you can trust someone?

Dating can feel intimidating and overwhelming, especially if you haven't dated in a while. Having a sense of who you can trust is an important step towards enjoying yourself and meeting the right person. ⁠
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Discover therapist-approved tips for “getting back out there" and learn five indicators of trustworthiness on our Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3llSaQQ